Got married 4 month ago in pakistan I am from USA finish my bachelor and got married now I have to leave my husband and go back to start my career cuz I don’t want us to be depended on my parents after he comes.My husband is a nice, caring and loving man the thought of being without is giving me depression I know I have to be practical and everything…
don’t know how to handle this suitation
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It's a means to an end.
Good luck
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Focus on the bigger picture.
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why dont ur parents just help you out ? .. why are they being so selfish ?
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^LMAO! what? How are her parent's being selfish?
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OP, like others have said, keep your eye on the bigger picture. The best thing you can do for yourself and your husband is to establish your own lives and finances so that when he is able to come to the US, he won't feel beholden to your parents.
Parents are a huge blessing in every way, no doubt. Show them that they raised a confident and capable daughter that can work hard to establish herself and her husband.
It will be ok, I promise!
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I have to leave my husband and **go back to start my career **cuz **I don't want us to be depended on my parents after he comes.
**:( don't know how to handle this suitation
Looks like you already know the answer to your own question. You don't want to depend on your parents once your husband arrives in the U.S......then be practical, and start your career asap. Save up as money as you can. Making practical choices....even when it makes us unhappy temporarily is part of becoming an adult and building our own family. Just imagine all the sacrifices your parents made since they got married.
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Would you mind quoting exactly where OP wrote…or even HINTED that her parents were unwilling to help her out?
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Why OP doesn't stay with her husband in Pakistan and start a career there. Going back to USA is not obligatory!
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I wonder, why have not anyone urged OP to apply for a divorce!
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Cause she has no problems with him…in fact he is “nice, caring and loving” and the fact that she has to leave him temporarily is making her depressed. 
I know you are just trolling with this response…but come on your response doesn’t even make sense in this thread.
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Many abcds or otherwise pakis in us have to go through this period. We go back get married come back and apply for our spouses' visa.. yes that first trip back without SO is tough but cherish it and romance on phone can
Be pretty poetic..wont feel quite same ever again once hes here ..lol the bitter romance..
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I feel the same way :-(
InSha Allah it will be for the best in the long run.
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apnay dil ki baat kisi par nahin daltay 
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^ are you sure you’re in the right thread?
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New user question #1: OP = Original Poster?
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Looking at the kinds of threads we read here, I was just hoping to read “my hubby is a horrible fat monster” after you mentioned you are married.
Stay strong:flower1:
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Even I was half expecting that. The other half the expectation was that it was regarding the mother-in-law.
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Yep.