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Explain that some more. Work emails within a company network can be intercepted from outside the network? Do you mean vulnerabilities within the network security components. Unless he works for a company that has absolutely none of those components, the chances of email interception from outside the network seems unlikely, I’m not saying it’s totally completely impossible but.
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Sure, after a confirmation it’s fine. But before that it’s a bit much, imo.
The poetry is not an absolute must, Fitoor. Unless one uses their own words, most likely the poem won’t be original. In my eyes, a letter expressed using your own words is better than a poem…and it would make for a great keepsake…but even that isn’t necessary. Right now, Op is at an uncertain stage and it’s best not to come on too strong, imo.
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Never thought I’d actually agree with third string EVER but poetry this early is a little creepy. Depending on the girl you don’t want to come off as too strong too early and don’t do things that she would find creepy. It’s best to learn her style and learn what kind of things she finds cute/sweet. There are so many ways to be chivalrous and each girl likes it differently.
To answer you questions, there are two ways to approach the situation. Since it is in your mum’s hands now you should either let her approach B’s parents OR you need to tell your mum and the sister and whoever is involved to take a back seat for a while until you get to know B personally and see if she is interested, gauge to see if your personalities mesh well together and if you have similar goals/vision for the future and genuinely get to know her and make a decision if you want to spend the rest of your life with her.
If she is interested, in a few chats you will know as she will either push you away by being distant or non-responsive or tell her family that she’s not interested and they will convey the message. Make good use of Ramadan and make lots of dua and work on your deen and overall self and when the time comes to have a chat with her you’ll be more confident and she will also have some time to think about you.
Good luck!
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They can be read by others within the company meaning the IT department or higher management. It used to be so, when I worked in Pakistan.
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Nopes. I am not in Pakistan right now.I am currently working in UAE and this all happened in UAE.
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Just ask your mom to contact B’s dad and your mom can ask him if it’s okay if your family visits during Ramzan or would they prefer that you visit after Ramzan. That’s it. Simple.
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I really hope that girl does not have issues regarding me.Mostly parents decide the fate of their girls without taking into account the girl feelings and most of the times the girl does not even know what she wants or she is confused regarding the alliance. I want to know the girl more but she is not responding positively as I discussed in my original post. What if she does not like me and just hiding her feelings ? I hope I get to talk to the girl and understand her priorities and her overall personality before making anything official.
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Am I the only one who finds you stalking her on Facebook and contacting her friend and then sister and then dad wrong?! Other than having a crush on this girl, you don’t even know her and you’re thinking of marriage? If I was the girl, id find that really creepy. Unless that’s how things happen where you are. Approach her, tell her you think she’s pretty and would like to get to know her better. In that 30 second confession, you’ll get all your answers rather than agonising over things for days or months as you probably have been doing. And, Id be very surprised if her friend/sister hasn’t told her already that you’ve been in touch with them.
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Also, don’t send her emails or call her at work. If she’s not keen on you and doesn’t like being bothered, she could report you to her line manager and you’d be disciplined for harassment. Tell her what your intentions are and then leave it. If she feels like she’d like to find out more about you, she’ll make the effort.
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Err if you are in UAE you really need to take it easy. It is Ramadan, Ramadan in UAE/Dubai is taken very seriously. No PDA etc. So, no wonder she is being reserved. Secondly. It is Ramadan! She’s fasting and she isn’t supposed to be worried about guys etc at the moment. You obviously can’t ask her for a date for lunch or coffee. So again, take a chill pill. In Dubai/UAE office romances aren’t that common amongst desi people. So again, you need to have some patience. If you’ve expressed your interest, you can’t expect everything to happen overnight. Why are you in such a hurry? Let Ramadan finish, you’ve told her sister etc. After Ramadan contact her brother and father, talk to them etc.
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Also I agree with muspus, you are taking things too seriously too soon. You don’t even know what the girl wants and you want to send a rishta to her home? You contacted her sister etc? If someone did that to me - contacted my sister without my permission - I would be highly put off and angry. You need to have some patience and wait a bit. She’s not a kid or something, she’s an adult. If she wants to pursue something with you, she will decide on her own. No one can force her. Give her some space!!! Have some patience, after Ramadan, go up to her and ask her out for coffee. If she says yes, explain the situation to her, and ask her opinion on it.
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B’s sister is asking for my photo.If B is interested then why is her sister asking for photo ? Maybe B has said that I don’t like the guy and B’s sister is asking for my photo so that she can know who proposed? They have our number and they have not contacted my mother again.Too many scenarios might be at play.I guess I will have to wait till ramadan is over and ask her directly what she wants.
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I train people to never make assumptions, just ask in a very polite and courteous manner…let me show you…how.
Hey B’s sis, thank you for asking me for my picture, does this mean your sister is considering my interest and she would like to show my picture to friends and relatives. The reason we have so much conflict, anger and hurt feelings is many people are making wrong assumptions. Good men and big men in matters of their heart park their egos in matter of women and children. Correct me if I am wrong, do you have a fragile ego?
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dude if you contacted her sister through facebook, then why the heck do you not have a profile picture. That’s sketch af.
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Asking for a pic is quite normal, when a friend approached me for someoe for my younger sis, thats the one of the first things I asked for. You are making things unnecessary complicated. lol
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Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
I “observed” you for 5 months
So please say “I do”
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Stalking is the coolest thing!!
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What’s up with the quotes eh? Without the quotes, it’s beautiful.:k: Now was that so hard for men folk, I think not. If what the OP is doing is perceived as stalking, then a person would never pursue the one they are interested in. He’ll just sit back and let his parents choose his wife for him. Of course if she’s not interested, he will lay off and move on.
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So, My mother sent her sister photos of mine few days ago in whatsapp. Her last seen status on whatsapp is showing as 31st May. On 31st of May she requested my photos and after that day she has not seen her whatsapp according to WhatsApp last seen status. I was wondering if they were really interested to know me then they would have made an effort to get back to us or would have cared to see the whatsApp messages. Should I wait or just stop this whole thing and forget about B ?
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lol, you’re the guy, you should be the one that’s cool about this whole situation.
Let them take their time and you take your time in doing other things with your life and continue to make it worthwhile. It’s Ramadan so generally people are busy with worship and there’s so many other things to do, not to mention, people are generally pretty worn out at the end of the day.
Don’t stress, if it’s meant to be it’ll be easy and things will work out naturally. Good luck 