Complicated Halala Situation

Lifestyle Relationships
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She spent 2 weeks. And agreement was, he would divorce her after third week. Which is weird. lol. She was aware of this plan but she is changed now. And doesn't want to back out.

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I don't blame her. You don't sleep with a man to get used.

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Women are controlled by emotions so this should have been expected...

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Pwner, halala may be considered a loop hole, but if you are uttering a word three times even in one sitting, that shows the intention clearly and should be taken as a final decision. It's exactly like nikah where you say qubool hai three times in one sitting and no one questions the validity of the nikah. If talaq can't take place in one sitting no matter how many times you utter the word, then nikah should not happen in one sitting either.
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Stop making stuff up. If islam requires that a marriage is ok in one sitting and divorce in three, why would you bring weird logic from stupid molvies to justify it?

I apologise in avance, but i have to copy paste Quranic Verses. Just read what the Quran prescribes, the right way, in which there is an inbuilt mechanism for reconciliation. So excuse me if I don't buy stupid molvi propaganda which is against the Quran itself.

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"When you (men) divorce women, divorce them keeping in view 'Iddat' (prescribed period of waiting) and reckon the period, and fear Allah your Lord. Expel them not from their houses, nor shall they themselves leave unless they are guilty of open lewdness. Such are the limits (imposed by Allah); and whoso transgresses Allah's limits, he verily wrongs his soul." (65:1).
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And for such of your woman as despair of menstruation, if you have doubts, their period (of waiting) shall be three months, along with those who have it (menstruation) not. And for those who carry (child in their wombs) their period of 'Iddat' shall be till they deliver their burdens." (65:4)
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Divorced woman shall wait keeping themselves apart three (monthly) courses. And it is not lawful for them that they should conceal that which Allah has created in their wombs, if they are believers in Allah and the last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And they (the women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in a just manner. And men are a degree above them (women) and Allah is Mighty, Wise." (1:228)
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"And when they have fulfilled their prescribed term, take them back on equitable term, and keep your testimony upright for Allah…." (54:2)

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And when you have divorced women and they fulfil their term of 'Iddat' either take them back on equitable term or set them free on equitable term. And retain them not to inflict harm unto them so that you transgress the (limit). He who does that does wrong his (own) self…." (2:231).

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And when you divorced women and they fulfil the term of their 'Iddat' do not prevent them from marrying their (former) husbands** if they mutually agree on equitable term…**." (2:232).
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"(This) divorce is (permissible) twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms, or separate with kindness. And it is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from) your wives which you have given them, except when both parties fear that they would not be able to keep the limits ordained be Allah…." (2:229).
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"And if he (husband) has divorced her (the third time) then she is not lawful unto him thereafter except in case she had wedded another husband (and been divorced again). In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah." (2:230).
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How can you explain someone falling in love in 2 weeks??

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They were friends so now it turned into love. Simple as that... Allah has automatically put love between a husband and wife.

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Just? Mohabbat main kaun talaaq deta hai? Rarely are relationships ended in a good mood or a state of calm.

And who knows? The guy who was so consumed by his anger to end a relationship once before....can do it again if he still has no control over the ego/temper. It's most likely the child that's his weakness right now...the same child his anger and tongue gave little thought to the first time.

I've heard the premeditated halalas are not jaaiz. But then I question the validity of a marriage which was done with the intention to divorce later on.

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I've heard the premeditated halalas are not jaaiz. But then I question the validity of a marriage which was done with the intention to divorce later on.
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Its essentially one and the same thing. People trying to fool God.

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This is what the girl fears. She is willing to make relationship work with her new husband. Problem is her new husband's parents doesn't know he did this. They are looking for larkis for him.

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But what kind of love is this that she loves him and he doesn't.

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Oh man! A sincere friend would neva do anything like to his own friend by marrying his ex-wife this way…So this friend who married a girl is at fault too. God forbid if i were to do anything like that my gharv wallay would literally tikka boti me..and make out a living example. This friend is brave that he did this…he will have to face ghar wallay some day…

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Did you not admitted before that he brought the concept of 2nd wife to this girl? So why was he in her pants for two weeks if he did not love her? Oh to fool Allah. I forgot...

This husband is in a big mess especially if the family doesn't know about his ridiculous planning.

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wa wa what . . . a halal booty call . . . who say muzlims are not innovative . . .

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This is sick!!! What just occurred to me is that both of these men have reduced this woman to a piece of meat. She's just someone to sleep with and then toss away. Both of these men have no respect for her....but she doesn't have respect for herself either or she wouldn't have agreed to this plan in the first place. All three of them....but especially the two men have no respect or regard for marriage.

It's not a valid halala so she can't go back to her ex husband. But even if she were to go back to her ex.....she'd have to put the memory of this sordid plan behind het and that's an overwhelming thing to get past. And if she stays with the current husband, she has to realize that he saw her as nothing more than a booty call; a piece of meat.

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Every person involved in this scenario is taking marriage as a joke and fooling Allah. None of them seems a marriage material to me who truly understands the commitment and significance of the knot! Murd hai biwi ka labaaz aur biwi murd ka labaaz. Bagharti ki hudh ho gayi!

How old are these people?

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I dunno. But sex is more emotional for women than it is for men. It's not necessary for guys to be in love with a woman they have sex with. They can isolate their emotions. So maybe she has developed an attachment to this guy........OR......maybe she's trying to hurt her ex husband by going back on the deal. Maybe she wants to pay him back for hurting her in the past.

Another thought that came to mind is that maybe she realized that it would generate more gossip within the community if she got a second divorce.......so she wants to stay with the current "husband" to avoid that badnami.

If marrying someone with the deliberate intention to divorce makes the union invalid or illegitimate.......then that means the sexual relations between them will also be rendered invalid.....so basically zina. They have done more than just "fool" Allah; they've committed zina. Have these three people thought of this at all? Maybe you need to bring this to her attention, Hassan, so she can think more seriously about this.

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This whole story sounds made up.

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I had the same impression when I read the story but people come in variations.

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Was this happened in pak??. If it is..then these sort of things happen there. I havent heard it happen..in west? Again i am not sure....messed up situation!