So me and wife went for our vacation last week. So my wife met her childhood friend who was in complete distressed. This woman brings up to my wife that her husband of 6 years divorced her and then got his own single friend to marry to divorce her for halala. They have a daughter of 4 years old. After few days, this woman doesn’t want to go back to her ex-husband and would like to stay married with his friend. And friend doesn’t want to live with her and want to let her go. She was literally begging her new husband to not let her go and refused to be divorced again. Woman is even telling her new husband that she is in love with him. (lol).
Ex husband = Nice guy but he just blew up in anger and said divorce three times. He regretted after.
His friend = Nice guy and he did this to help his friend out though he didn’t want to. This guy’s parents doesn’t know he did this.
What you think friend would do? or ex-husband? or this woman?
Lool shes a little desperate if shes literally begging new hubby to keep her despite him not wanting to. She needs to leave him because he clearly doesnt want her, besides theres nothing stopping her being single afterwards since shes not obliged to go back to the ex.
^I agree but situation is more complicated than this. She is claiming to be in love with her new husband. And he(her husband) doesn't want to live with her anymore. Her current husband is proceeding with divorce proceeding by announcing divorce to her. But his mufti is telling him that he has committed sin and shouldn't divorce this new woman for the purpose of going back to her ex husband.
Wow this is crazy, and to be honest, halala is such a grey area that no one can tell for sure if halala actually happened or not cause a nikah with the niyat of divorce is technically not even a nikah. I hope that they consulted an aalim before going that route.
I can understand the feelings of the lady. It's embarrassing and humiliating to be used like that and to be tossed between two men to be purified for the first husband.
If second hubby is not agreeing then she should take a divorce, and stay single or marry someone else. Using that poor girl like that is ridiculous.
It is unquestionably impermissible and a grave sin in the sight of Allah for the Muslims to plan such a halala to intentionally circumvent and make a mockery of the laws. The female friend portrays many signs of immaturity by agreeing to such an unethical plan.
Controlling the tongue and anger is recommended during spousal disputes due to the fact how strict divorce laws are in Islam.
Do you know if the friend has consummated the marriage?
@bsb. Yes she did consummated the marriage. Hence she doesn't want to let her new husband go.
@TLK. That is what me and wife were talking about. Read up again, the mufti told her new husband that he must not divorce her because he will be committing grave sin.
I'd love to vomit on the new husband's face! $%#$#
There are set of rules for divorce in Islam starting from initiation, reconciliation, completion, aftermath, and khula. Angry men just tend to start from the final stage "talaq, talaq, talaq" and pay the price at the end if not thought through with their stable mind.
New husband made a mistake but should not be hold responsible. it would be very nice of him not to divorce, but really he needs to live his life too.
Pwner, halala may be considered a loop hole, but if you are uttering a word three times even in one sitting, that shows the intention clearly and should be taken as a final decision. It's exactly like nikah where you say qubool hai three times in one sitting and no one questions the validity of the nikah. If talaq can't take place in one sitting no matter how many times you utter the word, then nikah should not happen in one sitting either.
^But according to new mufti. The divorce in one seating is considered one divorce. Not three. She could have gone back to her husband. But her ex-husband was from another fiqh.
@bsb. You're right. But it is not new husband's fault. He really didn't want to do this. But did it for his friend because ex husband couldn't trust anyone.
Tell the new husband to take his old wife as his "second wife" if the girl wants to remain married to him. Ask the ladies about their opinion since a child is involved from his previous marriage! :)
Holy!...your friend should have been more thoughtful before getting into this mess yo!. So this new guy's family doesnt know he has actually married her. Eek! That is another uphill battle.
^This has come up. Her new husband brought upon this idea to her. But she absolutely detest it. And claiming to be in love with him.
This is unfair to the previous wife because she has a child with him. God has given men right to marry up to 4 women with conditions. If the husband is capable of meeting those conditions then he doesn't need a permission from his new wife. The husband should have controlled his tongue at the first place to avoid this mess and should have not jump to conclusion such as divorcing.
