My problem is about recurrent onset of hopelessness and sort of anxiety. To start with I have been a socially secluded person since my childhood. I was in a prestigious medical college of Pakistan some yrs back, but left that incomplete, perhaps due to challenging studies of MBBS, notwithstanding the fact that rest of my colleagues were also doing their degree quite confidently. I had always a fear that I couldn’t do my MBBS due to difficult courses. After that I did my private bachelors from Punjab University , and was motivated by my family to appear in competitive exam. I managed to qualify that exam, and happened to join civil service as an Assistant Commissioner of Income Tax. But here too I am sort of socially isolated, and mostly remain sad. One more thing which makes me depressed is that I used to like a girl too, who prepared for exam with me, and once she qualified, she has sort of forgotten me. I really feel broken and finished due to this this. One more thing which depresses me is my appearance and looks. I look way too younger than my age. People mistake me for some teenage school boy, whereas im 28 yrs grown man. This is what that so called lady friend of mine made me realize. I am way too depressed over these issues. I don’t know what to do. My family is happy that i have been able to find a new career in civil service after my failure at mbbs. But im still very depressed due to above mentioned issues. At times I feel like dying, and life seems like worse than hell.
My problem is about recurrent onset of hopelessness and sort of anxiety. To start with I have been a socially secluded person since my childhood. I was in a prestigious** medical college of Pakistan** some yrs back, but left that incomplete, perhaps due to challenging studies of MBBS, notwithstanding the fact that rest of my colleagues were also doing their degree quite confidently. I had always a fear that I couldn't do my MBBS due to difficult courses. After that I did my private bachelors from Punjab University , and was motivated by my family to appear in competitive exam. I managed to qualify that exam, and happened to join civil service as an Assistant Commissioner of Income Tax. But here too I am sort of socially isolated, and mostly remain sad. One more thing which makes me depressed is that I used to like a girl too, who prepared for exam with me, and once she qualified, she has sort of forgotten me. I really feel broken and finished due to this this. One more thing which depresses me is my appearance and looks. I look way too younger than my age. People mistake me for some teenage school boy, whereas im 28 yrs grown man. This is what that so called lady friend of mine made me realize. I am way too depressed over these issues. I don't know what to do. My family is happy that i have been able to find a new career in civil service after my** failure at engineering**. But im still very depressed due to above mentioned issues. At times I feel like dying, and life seems like worse than hell.
first make up your mind, you were becoming a Doctor or an Engineer? these are quite different fields and require different subjects to qualify.
i think if one can get himself to MBBS, they are capable of finishing it off!
and now you are according to you passed one of the toughest exam in Pakistan a became bureaucrat, i dont think you would be suffering from any depression on this regard, as what you tried to do, you made it possible.
well if the issue is a girl or relationship that shouldnt be mixed up with career.
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@ Shakk: sorry it was a typing mistake
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you're just as miserable as you make yourself to be. So what if you didn't get the girl you wanted? It happens to everyoen at some point. many times we like someone who doesnt like us back or even if they do, some **** happens and they don't end up together. thats just life. you dropped out of school but still managed to secure a job. I think you are very fortunate. Thers thousands of young guys with degrees and no jobs. Atleast you're earning and hopefully you'll progress and get promoted and be very successful as years go by as long as you keep up the hard work.
And this is the first im hearing somene complain about looking young! Most people complain about looking old. I see 28 year old guys balding and looking like they are 40! be glad you arent aging so fast.
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well its a good thing that u r 28 and look like a youger boy ............ i dun understand why u depressed........n speaking of gal it happens to every man in this world...but u have to accept it n move on
so Cheer up dude
first make up your mind, you were becoming a Doctor or an Engineer? these are quite different fields and require different subjects to qualify.
i think if one can get himself to MBBS, they are capable of finishing it off! and now you are according to you passed one of the toughest exam in Pakistan a became bureaucrat, i dont think you would be suffering from any depression on this regard, as what you tried to do, you made it possible.
well if the issue is a girl or relationship that shouldnt be mixed up with career.
well maybe the girl saw u as just a friend thats the thing u shouldnt go into these friendships with any expections secondly if u look young good on u at least wen ur 44 u will look like some guy in his 20s and i know alot of ppl who would be grateful for that
be happy that u have a job be happy that ur in good poisition girls come and go insallah u will get a nice girl :)
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Adrift bhai... relax... lemme explain.
I am older than you Sir and kind of get the same compliments like looking young and blah blah... and to be honest its good to be in this form in ur prime. In older days boys had to/used to look good in their 20's, now the bar is raised to 30's... perhaps it cos of our diet and filth that we eat regularly and stuff...khair khair...
U need to back haul ur way of life. Join a gym, start aerobics and start a new at ur job. And don'tcha worry, gals will come aplenty. Trust me. But the main aim for you brov is to remain focused and happy. Get ur energies all vibed up. If i say its just a minor phase u r suffering then u might think of me as a retard, actually as someone-who-thinks-who-knows-everything-kinda-retard... and i might be. But my main problem have been the opposite... it was like, oh hell ab is lerki se kaise bachoon...LOL...
Ok kiddin' aside... just relaxxxx and start a new... start a fresh...u'll find plenty of friends when u'll be in ur own. Trust urself... u have all it takes. Believe me.
Wishing u beshhta luck brov. Adios.
.....and life seems like worse than hell.
Hey, you haven't seen hell, so how can you tell??
First of all, I would suggest that you see a Dr. There might be some hormonal imbalance, which may be causing depression.
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adrift
the depression and lovelife is something others can tackle, let me help you out with the looking younger than you are thing.
use it to your advantage, being youthful is no harm, I mean picking up something old school, beatles, paul mccartney was the baby face, and well chicas liked him.
You can do a couple of things though
1) I am assuming that you are thin..not asking you to develop a tond, but go to teh gym, bulk up a little, that will do wonders
2) hairstyle, go to a good stylist, not a mohallay ka hajjam, and tell them u want a haircut which is more mature, and suits you.
3) clothes- look at what you are wearing, replace with something more grown up.
4) I am usually not an advocate of facial hair, but a nice, trim well maintained goatie or something may help (trim does not mean those pencil thin anomalies ppl sport ...damn you aleesandro del toro)
if you want to send me a few pics, I can give you some real concrete advise, right now I am just speaking based on assumptions.
I have helped colleagues who felt they needed somewhat of an image makeover as they were moving from or wanted to move from backoffice technical roles to more business side of the house, so making them look more polished, serious etc..the grooming, the clothing, the accessories, the fit and fabric of clothes...it can truly make one look like different person.
although I must say, some of my friends have asked me to help them look younger than older :D but the same principles apply, for them i had to de-uncle them. but the same principles apply.
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bhai, kuch jaan shaan bano...desi parhatay khao....makhan shakan...saag waag.
and o pai....the girl who prepared exam with u or something is a career oriented gal. forget her. move on.
and dont be afraid of losing. its life!
when u lose something, and u also gain something. equation of life is always balanced.
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Get married to a doc.. She ll cure you :p
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don't worry, be happy. Get yourself involved in some sports perhaps. Make friends and enjoy your life.
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Bro. its time , you need to get married . :k:
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get laid.......errr married...
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I think the main problem behind your depression is that churail (girl who left you). Look, you are done with your education and already have a job. Don’t you think you should be working hard to get a promotion rather then thinking about your past?
You are lucky that you are done with your education and have got a good job. Not many people out there have this luxury, be thankful and move on. Past is past, the sooner you forget about it, the better. Looking young is actually a good thing, at least you don’t look like a buddha 
. Why this depression bruv? Let me tell you one thing, girls are like buses eik gai doosre aae ;). Don’t need to cry over a girl who ‘left’ you. If i were in your place, my reaction would’ve been like fu*k it and move on. Don’t cry over those people who have no intention of entertaining you.
If i were you, i would carry on with this job; work hard and become something. On weekend, i would take my car out and enjoy time with my mates.
Chill out, go out with your friends, enjoy life to the max and try to get over past. Oh, and join Gym too :p.
Bruv, you live in Lahore, do you even know that they are sooooo many damn places to chill out and have fun? Get out there and enjoy your life. Forget about girls, once you have got a good job, nice home and a good car, trust me 100s of girls will be after you, regardless of how you look. You can then pick the best one out and get married :D. For time being, forget past and enjoy life.
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I know this might sound stupid to many people, but seriously it does work. Try seeing a therapist. A few therapy sessions can do wonders. The problem is they can be costly, and in Pakistan, I really don't know the availability and cost of therapists...
Good thing is that you've identified WHAT is depressing you, so now let's try fixing them. You'll see, you'll come out of it.
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Yeah, because marriage is the cure to everything? 
You get married, and then you complain about the crazy person you married.
Get married when you are well grounded. Otherwise, the marriage will be sheer chaos. It is no fun being married to a depressed and insecure man.
LOL unless you have been married then why the need for that comment? The OP is a man from what I read… 
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A lot of people giving advice in this thread need help themselves....okay not a lot, few.
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thank God, i didn’t give any advice so i ain’t one of them 
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