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Wasnt it u who was puzzled when I said something about food's affect on marriage . I mean unless ur talking about cooking crack cocaine I assume cooking relates to food.- just throwing it out there I might b mistaken. Read my other post please which asks the OP if this is the only thing husband complains about or is he a jerk about everything.
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Its just a little scary to me that men out there value cooking so much that they'd be willing to put their marriage no the line for it.
Here's my attempt to clarify.
Despite working full-time, OP cooks food for hubby.
Despite not knowing how to cook Pakistani food, she learned it.
She even went to the trouble of skyping with her husband's Mother to learn the foods he is fond of.
She makes the food, following MIL's instructions.
Despite all of her efforts, hubby criticizes the food.
She is dejected over his constant criticizing and complaints.
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Don't feed the troll
Reha-
Perhaps, its not men but trolls or just people saying those things on the internet but hopefully not really going through it in real life.
Khatticchic-
The wording sounds like SachiMIL, remember her?
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i know someone who makes really really nice food. everyone compliments her food. her husband though is very picky and constantly finds faults with it.
one day the wife got fed up and said if you are unhappy with the food i make, then i am unhappy with the amount of money you make. that shut him up.
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Do you have Pakistani families living around you? Maybe you can learn from someone whose food your husband has liked at dinner parties. Its easier to learn face to face than with skype. Also, you may try youtube videos. Its nice that you are making so much of an effort because you love your husband even though you are not required to.
Do you have Pakistani families living around you? Maybe you can learn from someone whose food your husband has liked at dinner parties. Its easier to learn face to face than with skype. Also, you may try youtube videos. Its nice that you are making so much of an effort because you love your husband even though you are not required to.
I haven't been in the uk that long to make any real friends. I have mostly been busy with studying and getting used to my new married life. Now a days I am studying and working.
My MIL told me to use Shan masala since she use that in her cooking which I do.
I have tried to use YouTube but it doesn't help I even brought cookery books!
I have done everything I can but maybe as one of you said I have spoiled my husband.
Now when he come homes and ask what's for dinner then sometime I say nothing. Since you don't like my cooking I can't see the reason to waste my time on it when I use that time on my homework. He doesn't really say anything just go in the kitchen and make some junk food.
I think he is trying to make me feel guilty
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Coming on these forums I learn from all the issues of married women and make mental notes of what I should speak to a man before I marry him. My first marriage was an arranged marriage so i didnt get to ask anything, no wonder it fell to pieces after just a few months. But yeh this is one subject I will def clear up with my future husband before we get married. I can defo cook but everytime I cook, it will taste diff to the way I made it before. Sometimes it turns out real good and others it turns out a mess so take it or leave mate, I certainly aint cooking all over again on the same day.
My dad has two sisters, both absolutely amazing cooks that cook all damn day to please their husbands but neither of the husbands ever appreciate it. They are still married after so many years, but only cus my aunts have no where else to go and the husbands know no other woman will take their pathetic attitudes.
Homesick:- If you had the chance to go back and find this out that she couldnt cook that well, before marriage would you have refused to marry her?? Do you think you could find a woman who be willing to prove her cooking skills to you before you married her? and still be perfect in all other aspects of life apart from food as well?
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What a blank blank bleep ....he shd have married his mother then. My husband 5old me a couple of times about what a great homemaker My MOM WAS....BUT I AM NOT not her am I? So 3rd time I told him if he wanted a good homemaker he shd have married my mother. But remember she comes a whole package not in pieces he likes!!!. She was his phoophu lol....she was not an obedient wife either. ..lol.....may she rest in peace. Ur husband is ungrateful brat. I hope he appreciates u soon ..
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i know someone who makes really really nice food. everyone compliments her food. her husband though is very picky and constantly finds faults with it. one day the wife got fed up and said if you are unhappy with the food i make, then i am unhappy with the amount of money you make. that shut him up.
LOL I'd never have the balls to say that!
I haven't been in the uk that long to make any real friends. I have mostly been busy with studying and getting used to my new married life. Now a days I am studying and working.
My MIL told me to use Shan masala since she use that in her cooking which I do. I have tried to use YouTube but it doesn't help I even brought cookery books! I have done everything I can but maybe as one of you said I have spoiled my husband. Now when he come homes and ask what's for dinner then sometime I say nothing. Since you don't like my cooking I can't see the reason to waste my time on it when I use that time on my homework. He doesn't really say anything just go in the kitchen and make some junk food. I think he is trying to make me feel guilty
That's sad :( You're putting in A LOT of effort but he doesn't seem to care. There' seems to be a bigger issue at play....I don't know what.
My husband...he's had his moments. but thankfully they're few and far between. I don't cook exactly like his mother, and there are a few dishes he would never want me to even try.
Normal people understand that just because it's nto exactly like 1 person's cooking, doesn't make it bad.
After all, I've never had a bad biryani.
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I know a 'bleep, bleep, bleep', who when served food will take most of the botis, salan, regardless of how many people are being served because he says he earned the money and he has the right .
Other times, he will throw the food back in the serving dish, or throw the food onto the dining table, and then curse his wife or other women in the family for making such pathetic food. Person is extremely well educated by Western standards and held in high esteem over the nature of his work. Education alone cannot buy akhlaq or good manners. Either you have it or you do not.
BTW..it is not my DH..Thank Allah every day as he is the least fussiest person when it comes to food.
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Its just a little scary to me that men out there value cooking so much that they'd be willing to put their marriage no the line for it.
and then , there are men who dont value food as much as the character of their wife .
Where in the west were you "raised and born"
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Its just a little scary to me that men out there value cooking so much that they'd be willing to put their marriage no the line for it.
In many cases, complaining about food or towels not being placed in the correct order is a mere tip of an iceberg.
Maybe so in some cases don't think that's the problem in my case. He was like this from day one
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That means from day one he has an underlying acceptance issue. Or he simply suffers from the Oedipus complex for which there is almost no cure.
You need to talk to an elder in case this issue doesn't seem to settle in near future.
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Paklinks really out to have a feminism section.It will probably be the busiest section. P.S chat masala has saved my marriage with the help of allah of course.
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