Please share your tips on how to improve communications with hubby that doesnt want to talk about anything.
Examples: When he goes out he says I am going kaam se and gets upset if I ask if he knows when he will be back… Or will he be back for lunch or dinner…
If I tell him a family problem, he would just listen and not give any advice or response in return.. the best I get out of him is “Acha”… Drives me insane..
If I try talking to him about future he would just not pay attention, read news on the net or look extreamly boored…
We have been married for two years but never talked about future, finances, or anything for that matter.
Our communications has been one way… me talking and he just listening and not responding… It drives me insane when I ask him what do you think and he says “haan acha”… talk about not paying attention… sheesh…
Talk to him abt the things he likes to talk about,show him you hav alot of interest in what evr he says. no matter how many times he repeats nd tell u the same story or same thing,never say ur tellin me this for the 3rd or 4th time.
And let me tell you that communication is one of the C's of marriage.
Well family problems, our future, finances, should be of interst to him… I dont know much about criket or paki politics to talk to him about that.. It seems like those are the only things he finds intersting…
Talk to him abt the things he likes to talk about,show him you hav alot of interest in what evr he says. no matter how many times he repeats nd tell u the same story or same thing,never say ur tellin me this for the 3rd or 4th time.
And let me tell you that communication is one of the C's of marriage.
That is the problem.. he doesnt talk to me about things he likes, criket and paki politics... Maybe its beacuse i dont know much about both...
Are you recently married? if so give it a bit of time, he will start talking to you about everything soon.. he probably just needs sometime...
also you guys should go out and do stuff together.. go out for bowling, or dinner and before you know it you guys will have enough fuel to start all sort of conversations..
Paki politics and Cricket are both going through some funny situations right now....it will be easy for you to pick up. Will generate a chuckle out of him to.
Of course making reference to the that crying cricketer....for example.
I have quite a similar siutation as you but the difference is I am the one who dont talk that much and sometimes its drives him mad, by seeing him I can tell what you must be going through, but he tries to involve me in every single thing avout him, ask me questions about my childhood, likes dislikes, my family, my university stories and all, so probably you should deal him the same way :-)
Men only start talking if they have enough confidence and interest in other person. I would say stop treating him as a husband and more as a friend and lover. Instead of asking him 'when will u be back', just tell him that you love him and will desperately will be waiting for him to come back. Once he is back show him that passion and love that he been missing by staying away from home.
Btw men are more emotional then women, so exploit it :)
Men only start talking if they have enough confidence and interest in other person. I would say stop treating him as a husband and more as a friend and lover. Instead of asking him 'when will u be back', just tell him that you love him and will desperately will be waiting for him to come back. Once he is back show him that passion and love that he been missing by staying away from home.
Btw men are more emotional then women, so exploit it :)
I dont think so! Emotional? HA!! Dont make me laugh!
It seems like those are the only things he finds intersting…