Communication doesn't work anymore

[TeriDulhan]

Re: Communication doesn’t work anymore

@Niksik

According to me, communication is NOT just talking to your partner. That’s talking. Communication is way more than that…like knowing when to say what, like knowing if it is even imprtant to say it at all, it’s channeling the information you have, using the right tones and verbeage. Men don’t have the attention span or interests like women do. If men start feeling that their wives are constantly negative in their communication, they either shut off or get angry. Yo don’t have to hide anything but you have to figure out what is important, what is urgent and what is unimportant. Communication is also figuring out what are your spouses “hot buttons” as in what is effective communication. Don’t keep so many grudges as you’ve said that he’s generally a nice guy. The grudges add up and will come out each time you have an argument.

I do my best to gauge a situation and decide whether its important to say anything. Most of the time I keep quiet but the few times I do say anything, its never pleasant.

The thing is, I stutter alot, trip over my words and just can’t speak properly esp when I’m emotional. If I wait until I am ready to speak, he’s not ready to talk to me.
And times when he is relaxed and in a good mood, I just don’t want to bring anything up that will ruin the mood. In the past , as per some advice I got, I would talk to him about these things when he was in a good mood but it would quickly ruin the mood so I stopped doing that.