Recently I saw this young Pakistani couple kissing in front of their own parents, and it wasn’t just a small peck on the lips. Although, I wasn’t offended, I found it quite strange. Call me old fashioned, but I don’t think I could ever do that with my future spouse while my parents watched.
I once went to a Pakistani wedding a few years ago, where the dhula and dhulan were sitting beside each other talking on the head table, when all of a sudden, they both leaned over to each other and kissed on the lips for a few seconds, and then repeated after a short while. That’s the first and only time I’ve seen that at a Pakistani wedding that I have attended.
My question to you folks is, how comfortable do you, or would you feel with your spouse (or future spouse) in front of your parents? Where would you draw the line in terms of behaviour between you and your spouse, in the presence of your parents/inlaws?
thats extremely wierd I've never seen paki couples doing that. I find it wrong... i dont have any reasoning for that just that maybe couples should be shy in front of parents out of respect.
Actually come to think of it, it shouldn't just be with parents, pda screams of approval.. i feel that affection is only special if kept private between the couple.. but then again come to think of it other emotions such as anger towards your spouse etc should also not be made public... but thats going off on a tangent.
I'd say holding hands/light hugs are ok in front of parents otherwise it just feels wrong.
** IF ** I ever marry, I would never do anything like that in front of my parents, the only thing I would do and go far as doing is holding hands. Both my parents and his, I would never do anything like that. As Fret said, I am old fashion with a old fashion persian heart, like Rumi :love:
Never seen that in my life and i hope i don't have to. I'd leave the room/wedding in protest :p
I find kissing infront of parents IF you're paki to be in bad taste and no matter whether its deemed modern or not in 20 years or not i find only one word for it - begeherati :p
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i wouldnt even hold hands infront of my parents, forget kissing
actually i wouldnt like to kiss infront of anyone
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I don't think there is a problem with showing affection, like holding hands in front of the folks. :) I think anything more than that will be pushing it.
I find it disrespectful to do anything of the sort in front of my parents with a potential spouse. I'd rather we just sit together and talk than peck or hold hands.
If you are married, then I don't see a problem with holding hands in public or in front of my parents. Before marriage though, it would be disrespectful to do any touchy feely stuff.
no i wouldn't "peck" him, but i wouldn't mind smacking his butt..in front of my parents, not in front of his. I can already feel it..my mother in law is going to be evil. And whats wrong with molesting ur husband? WHATS WRONG WITH IT?
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no i wouldn't "peck" him, but i wouldn't mind smacking his butt..in front of my parents, not in front of his. I can already feel it..my mother in law is going to be evil. And whats wrong with molesting ur husband? WHATS WRONG WITH IT?
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I don't see anything wrong with it. :) I'm sure your husband won't have a problem with it either. :)
OK ** IF ** I’d ever get married, I would respect my well the H word, I would respect him, I wont hit him anywhere but I would melt his dil away with the sweetest words and many other things that Rumi has taught me :love:
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**i wudnt even hold hands.. just too weird to do these kinda things infront of ur parents or inlaws.
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Same here.
Not that i think it's "wrong" - everyone is entitled to their own opinions. i know what i am comfortable with, and being the ultra-shy person that i am - i would never be able to so much as talk to him properly infront of my parents, let alone do other things. i'm weird, but that's the way it is. (Of course, not that doing any of that would be "wrong" - we're all unique so we'll each interpret things differently).
I dont hav a problem with holdin hands or giv him a lil hug once in a while... after all we r married.. rite? Kissing is a BIG no no though .. just my level of comfort i guess :-)
but I would melt his dil away with the sweetest words and many other things that Rumi has taught me :love: