Muhammad Ali’s advice to his daughters..relevant to the current discussion about girls not objectifying themselves. I love the quote.
“Everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get them. Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls.”
While young pakistani girls are watching this and think this is the norm..a “grade A” actress for sure lol.. look at what she’s wearing and how she dances
If this guy is not getting good vibes from her, he should just stop considering her and move on. I turned a guy down just because of a vulgar photo he had uploaded, and I have no regrets. He was a good catch (thats what others said), but I was very sure I didnt like him.
Its just so weird that living in London he has such a mindset. Even in Pakistan a lot of girls go to hostels during university and I never heard anyone judge them.
I know a lot of girls who were in a relationship in school/university. Like they werent even discreet about it. And guess who they are married to now? The guy their ama/aba selected :k: .
So its not always a guy who is hiding his past, the girls do it too. I was told by a neighbor that her immediate neighbor calls a boy home as soon as her mom leaves (never saw it myself, so don’t know if its true). And its Pakistan I am talking about, mind you. You certainly don’t have to go to a hostel to live it up, you can do it anywhere.
Most dorms in US are now mixed gender (male and females living on same floor), there are still options for female only floors but mixed gender is becoming more common..in fact at NYU med school dorm girls and guys shared same public bathrooms so a girl could be taking a shower while a guy sat on toilet lol..hostels in pakistan are same sex so a little different
Yeah but considering the cultural differences between Pakistan and UK/USA/Canada, even sending a girl to a segregated hostel is kinda big deal because living in a hostel gives you independence.
In my university, the boys hostel was like a block away from the girls hostel. So yeah no chaddi parties here, but* hostel hostel hota hai.*
Yeah so maybe that’s what the guy is worried about. People will find ways regardless if they live in hostel or not, but it’s just easier if both guy and girl live on campus away from parents.
Yeah so people have preconceived notions that they’re worried about. Just like you didn’t even consider a guy because of a picture that you’re now saying wasn’t that bad but you didn’t like it. Similarly guy has his preconceived notions about girls who live in hostels. You should be able to relate.
No I never said I dont find it cheap now. I still do, but you wont.Just saying I took my decision, I had no second thoughts. He should also trust his instinct.
I know girls who went to Agha Khan University for their Medical school while they were actually were from other cities in Pakistan. People still don’t like these things in Pakistan even though they do’t have these going ons as much as or as openly as in the West but these girls did and are practicing in the US.
About people who go to school nearer to home? Doesn’t mean that these people are dimwits. I don’t know why people think you are worthy only if you make tons of money. Educated does not always equate tons of money. A decent amount of money, yes to live a comfortable life and contribute towards your family. Tons of money, fine, if that’s your goal but do not belittle those who are not going for that!
She can be dedicated to her studies even at home, what’s the other excuse?
I think she’s the type of girl who likes to run away from stuff and just focus on her own core well being and self satisfaction. When I was in uni most of the girls who used to live in hostels/dorms were considered gay.
I even once talked to a girl who turned out to be bisexual so I stopped talking to her. She also lived in similar kind of lifestyle.
Whatever I said can be entirely wrong but when it comes to getting married it’s an important decision and if he’s thinking too much that’s totally normal and reasonable.
You can’t decide by looking at just the good side of the picture, one should definitely think of the bad sides. Her parents letting her study like that is also something that makes someone very curious and is totally something to think about.
My parents allowed me to move 5 hours away and got me my own apartment only because the program I am graduating in was better in this city. My sister is starting university this fall iA but she is not moving out of the city yet, my dad is also getting her her own apartment because he feels that commuting to her university will be a hassle and very tiring and so, she would waste alot of her time and energy just in the commuting when she can dedicate that time to her studies or extra-curricular activities.
