Re: College Girl
Listen I think most mature guys will agree that most guys are h*rami and hold a double standard in almost all cultures throughout tje wolrd but especially in our culture. The thing is throughout history women have been used sexually (prostitution is one of the oldest professions). Women are still used by men to this day. It’s throughout society around the world–look how women are objectified for the pleasure of men whether it’s cheerleaders wearing skimpy outfits and jumping up and down at sports events, women wearing bikinis and holding a card showing what round it is in boxing, or how most nude scenes in Hollywood show the actresses completely nude in the name of acting (LOL), how grade A actresses in bollywood such as Katrina, Deepika, wear such revealing clothes and are made to move their hips and bodies provactively in songs–feminism says women should have freedom to have fun, be free and show their bodies this is what girls are being taught by society but what they dont realize is thats exactly what men want. They’re all being objectified for the pleasure of men whether they realize it or not. When a guy wants to fool around he doesn’t care at all about the girls past or her red flags he knows it’s temporary fun and he wants the path of least resistance which is usually the easy outgoing girls. When it comes time for marriage that’s when a guy wants a girl who did not allow other men to “use” her. This is the mindset of most men. When it comes time for marriage men don’t want an easy girl they want a girl who was strong and did not fall under the male-dominated societal pressure even if the guy himself engaged in such behavior. Most pak girls esp as teenagers and during their rebellious stage are dumb and fall for this pressure because it’s fun or makes them feel good or whatever. They do usually grow out of it once they experience it but by then they’re judged by men for not being strong. This is why even white people think a girl is slutty if she has many partners because they’re thinking oh that girl is easy she’s letting herself be used by men for their pleasure while a man who sleeps with many women and is able to conquer them for his pleasure is celebrated ad a player. I’m not saying it’s right but that’s how society works. That’s why a girl is held to a higher standard, standards that girls now a days are unable to meet because it’s so much easier to fall under the pressure and temptation these days with Internet, smart phones, facebook, skype, etc. All I’m saying is that girls should be smarter and don’t objectify themselves for guys who aren’t serious about them. Save it for the right man who will love you and respect you and will always be by your side despite the ups and downs that come with life. If a girl is patient she will find that man.
I agree with what you say. And I do think that girls should avoid these things and hold themselves to higher standards because I have seen many girls not getting good rishtas or being left out of something else because of their one time stupid mistakes they’ve made when they were teenagers. I was trying to say that I didn’t think that so many paki girls participate in these activities. Maybe I’ve just lived a really shelter life and live in a small area that’s not representative of the entire sample size.
But I completely agree about the double standard thing in our society and unfortunately it doesn’t look like it’s going to change anytime soon. However, girls do need to be smart and not fall for these things and stupid guys because society will hold it against them.