Re: College Girl
Listen I think most mature guys will agree that most guys are h*rami and hold a double standard in almost all cultures throughout the world but especially in our culture. The thing is throughout history women have been used sexually (prostitution is one of the oldest professions). Women are still used by men to this day. It’s throughout society around the world–look how women are objectified for the pleasure of men whether it’s cheerleaders wearing skimpy outfits and jumping up and down at sports events, women wearing bikinis and holding a card showing what round it is in boxing, clubs/strip clubs/dirty magazines and videos have women doing degrading things for men’s enjoyment, or how most nude scenes in Hollywood show the actresses completely nude in the name of acting (LOL), how grade A actresses in bollywood such as Katrina, Deepika, Aishwarya (in dhoom 2..yikes), married Kareena, etc wear such revealing clothes and are made to move their hips and bodies provactively in songs, even clothing of women is actually designed to highlight aspects of their body that will appeal to men (while men’s clothing is designed for comfort)—feminism says women should have freedom to have fun, be free and show their bodies because its empowering (LOL), this is what girls are being taught by society but what they dont realize is thats exactly what men want. Its become so entrenched in society that girls dont even realize it. They’re all being objectified for the pleasure of men whether they realize it or not. When a guy wants to fool around he doesn’t care at all about the girls past or her red flags he knows it’s temporary fun and he wants the path of least resistance which is usually the easy outgoing girls. When it comes time for marriage that’s when a guy wants a girl who did not allow other men to “use” her. This is the mindset of most men. When it comes time for marriage men don’t want an easy girl they want a girl who was strong and did not fall under the male-dominated societal pressure even if the guy himself engaged in such behavior. Most pak girls esp as teenagers and during their rebellious stage are dumb and fall for this pressure because it’s fun or makes them feel good or whatever. They do usually grow out of it once they experience it but by then they’re judged by men for not having been strong and it’s held against them. This is why even white people think a girl is slutty if she has many partners or is too overtly friendly with guys because they’re thinking oh that girl is easy she’s letting herself be used by men for their pleasure while a man who sleeps with many women and is able to “conquer” them for his pleasure is celebrated and described honorably as a player or Casanova or ladys man etc. I’m not saying it’s right but that’s how society works throughout the world. That’s why a girl is held to a higher standard, standards that girls now a days are unable to meet because it’s so much easier to fall under the pressure and temptation these days with Internet, smart phones, facebook, skype, etc. All I’m saying is that girls should be smarter and don’t objectify themselves for guys who aren’t serious about them, even if guys are engaging in such vices. Save it for the right man who will love you and respect you and will always be by your side despite the ups and downs that come with life. If a girl is patient she will find that man without ever having to engage in the temptations thrown at a girl by our society.