Re: College Girl
Yeah exactly. Lets be real–there are some Pakistani girls who purposefully want to dorm away for home because it becomes easier to party, drink and fool around. I know living in a dorm is not a prerequiste for doing those things but it does lower the barriers substantially and makes it easier. We have all seen such girls in uni. Can we all agree to this? No one is saying all girls that live in a dorm are like this, he’s just wants to make sure she’s not that small group of girls who do use living away from home as an opportunity to go wild. He is just being careful. Why are the female posters on here calling him insecure. I mean I agree it’s dumb for him to have preconceived notions and using those thoughts to not even consider her but I don’t blame him for having such thoughts. Stop calling the guy insecure when he is just trying to make sure his future wife hasn’t been around the entire campus. That’s his perogative, not insecurity. It would be insecurity if he tried to change her or continued to be suspicious after being in a relationship with her. He is trying to find the girl of his liking and mindset, nothing wrong with that. Stop always calling guys narrow-minded or controlling or insecure when he doesn’t want a girl that’s been around. For some reason whenever a guy doesn’t want a too modern or too liberal girl it hits a nerve for all you female posters. Don’t know if you girls these days understand this concept but when it comes time for marriage, guys and especially in our judgemental society do judge a girls character, personality and how she portrays herself in public just like you girls do for us, the only difference is that men generally aren’t as forgiving, they’d rather consider a more classy girl who will respect the relationship and remain loyal as a wife and not be difficult and always want to do things that she used to do when she was single which may be inapprorpiate once in a relationship. The reality is modern girls these days want to continue to act and do whatever they did when they were single and view any sacrifice and compromise as a restraint to their freedom and a women rights issue. When guys just want to fool around none of the above stuff will matter but when it comes time for marriage a guy doesn’t want a girl who has been around the block.
Now having said that, the guy should focus on seeing if there are other red flags in the girls character and personality rather than using only 1 aspect (that too living in a dorm) to not even consider her.