**So recently the Muslim youth group coordinator (R aunty) at our local Masjid had a co-ed sleepover at her house. Now the kids in the youth group are of ages 13 and above. The families of the children are a mix of conservative and liberal Muslims. A lot of the parents were not clearly told that this would be a sleepover AND that it was co-ed! So as you can imagine as soon as parents found out they called their kids and told them to come home right away.
Btw the boys and girls were in separate rooms in her house.
I was president of this youth group 3 years ago, and I felt R aunty was too liberal even back then when dealing with the kids. For example she would let us (girls and boys) stay up late during camping trips or sleep overs at the Masjid during Ramadan. But having a sleepover at her house in my mind is just pushing it too far (and a little creepy to be honest), and I would have never approved of it.
But would you approve? If there is an adult chaperon is it okay? Are there any pros and cons?
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That was my parents as well. Yahan tak, I only ever slept over at my relatives’ house once or twice and that was after practically begging. I got the whole, “larkiyan bari nazuk cheez hoti hain - aankh ujhal, pahaar ujhal” lecture from them.
BUT, I do remember my brother going to a Muslim camp thing - and the fact that it was sponsored by the masjid was what made it acceptable. Double standards much
My parents never let me go and I wont let my kids go either
Really? You never went on an school trips overnight or camping stuff? I dunno it does sound a bit odd, but I remember going on 3 day camping trips...and even overnight trips for school competitions etc. It was co-ed in the sense that boys and girls went, but we slept seperately.
We used to go to this Camp Burney and all the girls slept in 1 cabin & the boys slept in another cabin and the teachers were pretty vigilant in making sure nothing happened. Overall we knew the rules and most of us adhered to it. Then again the camp trips were offered as rewards for those who get honor roll/credit roll...so dunno
My mom would never let me sleep over cousins or friend's houses. She used to tell me that "when you wake up at someone's house your not gonna know where you are, and your gonna get scared." lol. I'm not sure if that was an excuse but I completely understand why parents are not ok with their children not being at home in front of their eye sight, ESPECIALLY at night.
