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Trust has nothing to do with it.
As an example: just like one wouldn't want his wife to be travelling on public buses in Pakistan, why would one expose their wife to the opportunity of some stranger copping a feel? Unless you actually believe that clubs have some other divine purpose. Besides, what kind of "same-sex" or platonic experience be ONLY be conducted in a club of all places?
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Oh so that's whom I was grinding against yesterday at the club.
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yea thanks but no thanks...i wont allow my mate to go clubbing...if dint marry a whore...
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Skhan sums it up pretty nicely. This isn't an issue about trust. Why people keep bringing this up I don't know. We're humans and life isn't all hunky dory like a Bollywood movie as some seem to think. Its more about letting your partner go to such an environment where people can fall into all sorts of dangers, especially those associated with clubs. Why not go to a more formal gathering like say, a restaurant? A club has very little in the way of moral behaviour. There its all about hitting onto the opposite sex and peer pressure.
If you want your partner to be oogled at, hit on and gyrated against, then good luck to you. It shows how very little protectivenss one has towards their spouse.
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^ its even sicker when ppl r ** proud ** of their spouses being gyrated against and hit on..
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Trust has everything to do with it. Read what the thread starter is saying here. “Do you a think a person who is committed should be going there with all their single mates?” “Going with your partner is one thing, but wot about without them?”
That seems to be the issue here. Not protecting her male fiance from being groped.
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I wouldnt be ok with it. end of story.
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.. Says the sick rotten ABCD! 
j/k 
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But the title of the thread here also says clubbing…
Is it just me or the people here more liberal than average Pakistanis (even western pakistanis)???
I mean you can find every sorts in western society but the people I know aren’t that liberal..
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Blitzkrieg, people here voice their opinion, opinions they would not normally express in front of others ... because it's safe and relatively anonymous. What people do out in the real world may be totally different from what they proclaim online. None of us really know unless we get to know each other personally, and who has the time for that? :p
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Both men and women prefer their respective spouses to avoid mingling too much with the opposite gender. For men it's a matter of prestige ..For women it's comfort and security. That's why they say...don't marry young or you will miss out on a lot of hotties :-D
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^ Depends on how you view your life and marriage!
And Mehnaz, I do agree about the skeletons in the closet. I have myself seen contradictions especially in the generation growing up here (like girls acting all hijabi in front of parents at home while they sit on guys’ laps at schools / even take off hijab etc).
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well wat can u say muslims and desis are getting more and more bayghairat... but u cant say that all of us here r like that :p
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i have my money on kaka ;-)
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Sorry to say HELL NO. Clubbing is bad, and If my prospective husband was a clubber I would not marry him. Simple as. You have to be a certain 'type' to go clubbing and it aint my type. No thanks.
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i have seen mullah turned shaitan and shaitan turned bakri...
point is, clubbing is overrated.. going to club is not a scale u can judge a person by...simple..
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faizy: Yep, ur absolutely rite…u can’t chain down ur partner and that’s no way to live…to always be wandering wot they’re up to…i agree (like i have said in another thread once) when u go into a relationship u give them ur complete trust…and it stays that way, until the other has given u a reason to think otherwise. Talking about ur problems is better than turning a blind eye, and yes communication will give u a better outcome.
And, it is so very wrong of some ppl to judge ppl who go clubbing…i think many don’t really know wot it’s all about…and it is different for everyone…i hate it when some asians go 
OMG so and so goes clubbing! Like God knows wot crime they have committed…it’s wot u do there, or don’t do there that mite be wrong (like anywhere u go for that matter)…but just going to a club is not a bad thing…ppl need to stop being so judgemental of others.
**pakjangjoo:** I agree, clubbing is not just for losers :) But sometimes, both men and women, need to go out with their friends SOMETIMES (without their partner)...i think it's healthy...u can't expect her to be joined to ur hip 24/7...now, where she goes may make u feel uncomfortable...in that case, perhaps u wud need to dig deeper and ask urself y it is that u don't like her to go there without u.
**Sahar02:** Yes it is good for partners to do stuff apart also...it's nice u n ur hubby both like to dance, probably makes things easier...and i'm guessing u wud let him go alone too, if say, one night u just didn't feel like dancing rite :)
**Mad_Scientist: **That is true, BUT wot if the two of u r rebuilding trust...then it can be hard to sometimes let each other go no? I think with time, trust will be regained and then letting each other go out wudn't be a problem.
**picoico:** How come? U know, if he/she wanted to break ur trust they cud do it at the restaurant/cinema too.
**MehnazQ: **I wudn't mind if he went to one of those business parties, and he feels the same about me going there...but we both wud definately HAVE to come home that nite...no reason to be there all thru the nite, into the next day...that's too much...being around alcohol drinkers is not a biggie for us two...we have many friends who drink and we all respect each others' wishes...if u drink then u drink, but u don't force it upon ur friends/aquaintences...u shud know ur own limits and boundaries...and i agree it comes down to trust...but like i said to Mad_Scientist, sometimes when one of u is trying to move past something, and rebuilding trust, that's when it gets a little sticky...so, i think the sooner u both have established (or re-established) trust, the better :)
**skhan:** I believe it is about trust...but u r entitled to ur own opinion...btw, ur wife can be "copped" up anywhere, not just on a Pakistani bus or in a nite club...and yes, nite clubs do have other purposes...we r not all perverts. I guess u won't be letting ur wife enjoy a nite out with her girl friends dancing, laughing and listening to music...without u of course, watching carefully closeby.
**TeenDabbyWala: **:hehe:
**lussi:** pardon me but, that is so very stupid and a very insensitive thing to say...not everyone who goes to a club is a "whore"...but i guess u think it wud be alrite for u to go with ur friends, but she's not allowed :rolleyes:
**Starsky: **It is about trust...i know it is, first hand...there's nothing wrong with going to a restaurant too...but u don't always wanna go somewhere formal...sometimes a casual nite out with ur closest friends is fun...it's good to have different experiences and meet new ppl...sometimes u need to NOT be so afraid of the world...wot ur saying cud happen anywhere...no matter how much u think ur protecting him/her, the truth is, bad things can happen anywhere at anytime...i personally don't think it's healthy to lay so many restrictions on each other...ur supposed to be each others' friends too, not be acting like ur her father! Ur wife can be "oogled" at down at the supermarket also...u have to learn to give each other space too and not let others worry u to death...just wot i think.
**BlitzKrieg:** there r liberals and non-liberals everywhere...not only in the West.
**Fayz:** Yea, too much of *anything* is bad :D
**Puchi Kuchi: **Fair enough if UR not the type...so i guess ur saying u cudn't handle it if HE was, therefore u wudn't even marry that type...well, wotever works for u :)
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yeh ok maybe im a little conservative…but thats my definition of a whore…but then again maybe im a little more traditional than the normal joe..
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I don't think any guy would attest to that. Guys don't want their girls around especially during parties. I hate to say this but we don't love you that much. I have yet to see a guy go to a club and say:
*You know man, the club is Banging. We should invite our girls. *
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KRD - nah. he doesn't like to dance.