If ur gf/fiance/wife went out with her SINGLE friends to a nite club without u, wud u be okay with it?
How about u girls? Wud u mind if ur partner in a serious relationship, ur husband/fiance/bf went out clubbing with his friends who all happen to be SINGLE?
Going out with ur friends is a good thing in my eyes, and there is nothing wrong with having single friends either…BUT, most single guys/gals go clubbing in hopes that they mite meet someone they like…along with i guess, enjoying the music, dancing etc…so do u think a person who is committed shud be going there with all their single mates?
Going with ur partner clubbing is one thing…but wot about without them? Wot do u think…
I don't mind. We might actually go clubbing together. why not?
LOL Before everyone starts pointing fingers, I was only kidding. However, its true I don't mind him going to a club. I trust him as simple as that. end of discussion
well, then it depends on a personal values and morals. I have never done clubbing and am not willing to do any clubbing later after marriage either. Hopefully, i get the same kind a response from dude that ill be marrying.
emm and Angel Eyes, yea some girls don't go clubbing so they feel that their partner shudn't either...
Mahnoor, i don't see a problem with going togther either...but u wudn't mind either if he went with his single friends without u?
Wot if some engaged/married friends went with ur partner (still without u), wud that make a difference...or wud u still be uncomfortable knowing the reasons y a lot of ppl go clubbing, and he/she is there without u?
Depends on if you’re the clubbing type or not. Puh-lease, we all know what goes on in clubs. I went into ONE club in my whole life, and the entire experience was so crazy. People who are trying to run away from their life’s miseries were there. I did not see one healthy balanced soul there, (except my friends and I of course :halo: ). Maybe it was just that particular club, but I just don’t think the club environment is a great place for a person to spend the extra moments of their life to begin with.
Besides, there are plenty of places they can go with their friends that can be a bit more … “wholesome”.
I'm talking about ppl who do go clubbing, if u don't fair enough...if u think it isn't a "wholesome" place to hang out, fine...i've never been to a club myself...but i know excatly wot goes on in there...if u enjoy the clubbing experiece or not, i think it does depend on ur personality and wot ur into...i have a guy friend who says he purely goes there for the music...n i believe him, cos he's really, really into music...goes to all concerts n stuff...so for him it's fun...let me add, he is single though...but he has never picked up a girl at a club...he's shy, so...
I have another friend, a girl, she likes going clubbing...she goes to meet new ppl and to let go of some of her stress...her thinking is, my family life is so messed up that when i go out i just wanna have fun...now she doesn't do anything stupid...so i think some of it depends on how much control u have over urself, cos yea sometimes things get tempting...i don't see anything wrong with going to clubs if ur "trying to get rid of life's miseries" as Pcg said...
So how much trust can u really give ur partner...when ur together that's fine...my fiance loves clubbing, and wants me to come with him after we get married...he knows i hate it lolz...i used to tell him, even if i was allowed to go out at nite and cud go to clubs, i wudn't...y? Cos i'm not that type, i don't like to dance one bit haha...and that's mainly wot u go for rite...now, he is the type (even used to dj in clubs a couple yrs back) so i duno....sometimes i get cross with him if he wants to go, i do want him to enjoy his life...he has had a really tough life...but sometimes i duno, i can't help but think negatively...
And sometimes i think, u do trust ur partner...but perhaps not their friends.
Oh its fine if you find a club where everyone goes to just "enjoy the music" and "dance", etc. I myself love to dance, it helps get rid of a lot of pent up energy. But not in a crowd of losers I don't know who are intent on rubbing up next to any girl they can get their hands on. I had drunk guys come into my face while I was dancing, that I had to shove away. I'm sure, any place you have strobe lights flashing, and alcohol flowing, there will be a lot to detract away from the wholesome "enjoy the music" type scene.
**I had drunk guys come into my face while I was dancing, that I had to shove away. I’m sure, any place you have strobe lights flashing, and alcohol flowing, there will be a lot to detract away from the wholesome “enjoy the music” type scene.
**Yea, drunks will be drunks…i guess regular club-goers get used to them.
There r different types of clubs i guess…some r more posh and some r more erm, let’s say laidback…sometimes, it cud just be the crowd that particular nite…sometimes the ages of the crowd has an affect on how it goes…sometimes it’s the ppl who promote the party and the djs playing wot types of music.
Back to the topic…so since u like going (if it’s wholesome enough for u), and u like to dance etc…wud ur fiance/husband mind if u went out clubbing with ur SINGLE girl friends, without him? And, wud u mind if he went out with his SINGLE friends without u?
Ahh, ur the sneaky type hehe…so wud u stalk him, or send someone to do the job
I cud never do that…i think that’s kinda childish, no offense…if u were having deep problems, then i guess that cud be one way to find out wot he’s really like…but i hope no one ever has to go that far …with me, the problem is i don’t like some of his friends
Give freedom to your birds. Let them fly away. If they don't come back to you they were never meant to be yours. However, keep an eye on frequent flyers!!
Cant you just sit on a sofa with your mate and talk to him for long long hours.........what'd you really get after clubbing.....waste of time ..precious time.....
Wot if ur opposites, and have different ideas of having fun…in those couples, i think they have to learn to compromise and give each other some room and space, so both ppl are happy and content.
…with me, the problem is i don’t like some of his friends 