Re: Clubbing with ur mates
faizy: Yep, ur absolutely rite…u can’t chain down ur partner and that’s no way to live…to always be wandering wot they’re up to…i agree (like i have said in another thread once) when u go into a relationship u give them ur complete trust…and it stays that way, until the other has given u a reason to think otherwise. Talking about ur problems is better than turning a blind eye, and yes communication will give u a better outcome.
And, it is so very wrong of some ppl to judge ppl who go clubbing…i think many don’t really know wot it’s all about…and it is different for everyone…i hate it when some asians go 
OMG so and so goes clubbing! Like God knows wot crime they have committed…it’s wot u do there, or don’t do there that mite be wrong (like anywhere u go for that matter)…but just going to a club is not a bad thing…ppl need to stop being so judgemental of others.
**pakjangjoo:** I agree, clubbing is not just for losers :) But sometimes, both men and women, need to go out with their friends SOMETIMES (without their partner)...i think it's healthy...u can't expect her to be joined to ur hip 24/7...now, where she goes may make u feel uncomfortable...in that case, perhaps u wud need to dig deeper and ask urself y it is that u don't like her to go there without u.
**Sahar02:** Yes it is good for partners to do stuff apart also...it's nice u n ur hubby both like to dance, probably makes things easier...and i'm guessing u wud let him go alone too, if say, one night u just didn't feel like dancing rite :)
**Mad_Scientist: **That is true, BUT wot if the two of u r rebuilding trust...then it can be hard to sometimes let each other go no? I think with time, trust will be regained and then letting each other go out wudn't be a problem.
**picoico:** How come? U know, if he/she wanted to break ur trust they cud do it at the restaurant/cinema too.
**MehnazQ: **I wudn't mind if he went to one of those business parties, and he feels the same about me going there...but we both wud definately HAVE to come home that nite...no reason to be there all thru the nite, into the next day...that's too much...being around alcohol drinkers is not a biggie for us two...we have many friends who drink and we all respect each others' wishes...if u drink then u drink, but u don't force it upon ur friends/aquaintences...u shud know ur own limits and boundaries...and i agree it comes down to trust...but like i said to Mad_Scientist, sometimes when one of u is trying to move past something, and rebuilding trust, that's when it gets a little sticky...so, i think the sooner u both have established (or re-established) trust, the better :)
**skhan:** I believe it is about trust...but u r entitled to ur own opinion...btw, ur wife can be "copped" up anywhere, not just on a Pakistani bus or in a nite club...and yes, nite clubs do have other purposes...we r not all perverts. I guess u won't be letting ur wife enjoy a nite out with her girl friends dancing, laughing and listening to music...without u of course, watching carefully closeby.
**TeenDabbyWala: **:hehe:
**lussi:** pardon me but, that is so very stupid and a very insensitive thing to say...not everyone who goes to a club is a "whore"...but i guess u think it wud be alrite for u to go with ur friends, but she's not allowed :rolleyes:
**Starsky: **It is about trust...i know it is, first hand...there's nothing wrong with going to a restaurant too...but u don't always wanna go somewhere formal...sometimes a casual nite out with ur closest friends is fun...it's good to have different experiences and meet new ppl...sometimes u need to NOT be so afraid of the world...wot ur saying cud happen anywhere...no matter how much u think ur protecting him/her, the truth is, bad things can happen anywhere at anytime...i personally don't think it's healthy to lay so many restrictions on each other...ur supposed to be each others' friends too, not be acting like ur her father! Ur wife can be "oogled" at down at the supermarket also...u have to learn to give each other space too and not let others worry u to death...just wot i think.
**BlitzKrieg:** there r liberals and non-liberals everywhere...not only in the West.
**Fayz:** Yea, too much of *anything* is bad :D
**Puchi Kuchi: **Fair enough if UR not the type...so i guess ur saying u cudn't handle it if HE was, therefore u wudn't even marry that type...well, wotever works for u :)