Clothes at home

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In pakistani culture is it normal for the wife and daughters to wear revealing clothes inclduing in front of the gradnparents and the wife in front of her husbands parents or is it discouraged and disliked? Since i heard something before and im not sure if its true

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:smack: pakistani culture

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Its sad that we have heard samethings about Arabs.
Ironically there are so many myths, misconceptions, assumptions whenever there is anyhting about Pakistan, reminds me, Once I was watching a documentary about Islam in Turkey on Aljazeera, there wasa girl in it who quoted, Atleast turkish women are free to move or show there hair unlike Pakistan where if a woman shows her hair, her brothers, dad are expected to kill her.

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True arabs should unite and not spread rumours about each other. But in many cases some people have bad experiences with a certain race and begin to dislike that race as a result people shouldn't do that. Where i used to live the indians and pakistani people were soo kind but then when we moved to a new area they were very mean, regardless my family doesn't use that as an excuse to group a whole race as being good or bad it just depends by chance who you meet. i just want to make sure its not true cause a friend of mine said it was and i told her i don't believe that.

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Why would it be normal to wear revealing clothes infront of any elders? No matter what the cluture :konfused:

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Why is it not normal? i think its normal if they are family

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How do you define revealing?

Sleeveless? Nikars shorts? I'd understand it if people considered that awkward...

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Also define family, around siblings etc sure that'd be fine. But husbands family?

Thats asking for awkward.

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yes shorts t shirt vests

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not husband brothers but around the husbands sister and parents

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Maybe not with the sister but I'd find it awkward and I wouldnt be surprised if my family found it awkward if my wife wore shorts around my parents...each to their own I guess

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Yes this is a generalization but I have seen that....desis tend to be more strict about doing parda even in front of brothers/fathers/immediate family members....even in US, I know girls who were raised to wear duputta on their head when their brothers/fathers were around...hell I've heard aunties themselves say that molvis say girls HAVE to do parda even in front of their entire families or will go to hell..

Also, I'm not arab so I don't know what arabs do but I've known a few and they ten dto be more relaxed around their families. They migth wear hijab outside but at home, they don't wear hijab from their own families.

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it varies from family to family, some or I think mostly i don't think prefer this, some are ok wth sleevless only while some are even ok wth skirts, nikrs and vest and I have actually seen brides wearing very revealing dresses :p

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And Re: in laws, the norm is to dress properly in front of them. Some hijabis are strict about that and will wear hijab around the male in-laws, some won't. Some non hijabis will still dress appropriately in front of their in laws. I dont' wear hijab, but when I'm with in laws I wear shalwar kameez/duputta bc that's what's appropriate to me.

Basically, this is where your husband comes in, it's his family and he should tell you what's appropriate and inappropriate to wear in front of them.

Re: grandparents, falls under the category of how you would dress with any elders around and the family's norms.

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Yeh it depends on you and your family. I don't wear revealing clothes infront of my own siblings and parents and grand parents so I certainly wouldn't be wearing them infront of my husbands family, no matter who it is. But then it's just me.

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Like everyone has mentioned above, it really depends on what you feel comfortable doing and more importantly whats comfortable for your family. For me personally, I have always been bought up to wear a dupatta in front of my father, I haven't got any brothers but around my father its always been dupatta and only shalwar kameez. So so ..I just have the habit now so unless I am in my room...you will always see me with hijab.

When I eventually get married, I think I would do the same with my in laws. I certainly wouldn't care about it if I was just in front of my husband or kids. Although if my husbands family were not too fussed about dupatta and stuff....then in the comfort of my house, i might ditch it --not because I have loose morals but because I think it wouldn't be too much of a deal.

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Same with me, I am Pakistani, and the most revealing I will go in front of my father and brother is not cover my hair and wear short sleeves. Anything more than that like a vest or shorts not in a million years. Most of the Pakistani families that i know are like this. Whereas I do have a few Arab and Turkish friends who wear shorts and vests in front of their mehrams all the time and I find it weird but never judge them to be any less Islamic than myself.

My Arabian friends say that covering up in front of mehrams is just a cultural thing, it does not state in the Quran that we have to do purdah from mehrams which is fine and I accept that thats how they want to believe then its their choice but for me personally I read somewhere that Hadrat Fatima May Allah be pleased with her had never revealed any part of her body except hands and face to anyone but her husband. NOt even her maid was allowed to see her body before she died. She knew she was going to die and made sure to get ready in her white shroud herslef and not be allowed to be seen even by her maid. So for me I just think it shows more modesty to not be too revealing infront of even mehrams. BUT again each to their own.

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I would not be comfortable showing any amount of skin in front of my in laws that I would not show in public generally. I would be comfortable being more casual, but that's it.

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Most Pakistanis do not wear revealing clothes in front of elders or in public. However, that does not include hijab. Not all Pakistanis wear the hijab. Interesting, as I have heard from many people that most Arabs wear revealing clothes inside their abayas and at home too.

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This is a non-issue. Most Pakistanis I know lightly even hug their cousins. People here are making an issue of a non-issue. Pakistanis are generally very open minded people.

Also take this board with a grain of salt. A disproportionate number of the people here are British Pakistanis which is the equivalent of Arab American or Dutch Somali. Basically low class people who mix Islam with their ignorant cultures and couldn't tell you the difference between the two.