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^ wowww! You are stereotyping! Just because someone is different than you, it does not make them "low class"
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Once I happened to visit one of my Iraqi Muslim female colleague. I actually went to collect my cell phone which I forget at my work place. I was terribly traumatized to see her in extremely short Nikar and sleeveless T- Shirt. She was having her dinner with her family including elder brothers and father.
She use to cover at work. Wear Abaya, Never missed her prayers. My entire impression on her changed after visiting her. She said its normal in Arabs. Most of the Arabs family doesn’t follow stern concealment between father daughters or brother sister.
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Once I happened to visit one of my Iraqi Muslim female colleague. I actually went to collect my cell phone which I forget at my work place. I was terribly traumatized to see her in extremely short Nikar and sleeveless T- Shirt. She was having her dinner with her family including elder brothers and father. She use to cover at work. Wear Abaya, Never missed her prayers. My entire impression on her changed after visiting her. She said its normal in Arabs. Most of the Arabs family doesn’t follow stern concealment between father daughters or brother sister.
I really don't wanna see that much of my family members.. That's all I'll say. Chunni even on at home, Imo is a bit extra but having to strain up cuz ur relative has all their legs showing is awkward. Be 'free' and wear what you want, but duhh dat's nasty jus keep it out the house. :P
^ wowww! You are stereotyping! Just because someone is different than you, it does not make them "low class"
He/she is wrong to say it like that, but I find that a lot online even from people in South Asia. It's politics and propoganda they've become consumed with essentially being darker arabs, and it's kind of disgusting and insulting both to them and to me.
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Many Arab women may jump from one extreme from another, i.e from wearing short and vest to full head to toe covering abaya, whereas Pakistani women are naturally more moderate in their lifestyles. You won't see any significant amount of change the way Pakistani women dress at home or outside (except the clothes worn outside are perhaps are bit more nicer lol) that's because there is a general acceptance of conservative nature of Islam and their households.
From my own experience and research into Arab cultures, I won't mind saying that the whole perception of Arab women hang around in shorts and vest, to some extent is a massive generalisation. Yes you can say that Gulf women have a reputation but there is so much diversity amongst Arabs that its not even possible to generalise. There are plenty of Arab women who wear traditional Arab dress and small headscarf even at home, its very common amongst religious Arabs.
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wow thanks for your answers they have been a helpful insight :)
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Once I happened to visit one of my Iraqi Muslim female colleague. I actually went to collect my cell phone which I forget at my work place. I was terribly traumatized to see her in extremely short Nikar and sleeveless T- Shirt. She was having her dinner with her family including elder brothers and father. She use to cover at work. Wear Abaya, Never missed her prayers. My entire impression on her changed after visiting her. She said its normal in Arabs. Most of the Arabs family doesn’t follow stern concealment between father daughters or brother sister.
If you are a guy this is wrong and you shouldn't have seen her like this but if you are a women i dont really see anything wrong islamically with it just kind of awkward.
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If you are a guy this is wrong and you shouldn't have seen her like this but if you are a women i dont really see anything wrong islamically with it just kind of awkward.
I am female. I certainly feel it’s wrong. I don’t cover my head with scarf/ Duppata when I am with my family. Like Brothers and Father. But in case if I am wearing some fitted Pakistani Dress which prominent body part, I never forget to cover my front with Duppata/ Scarf even inside home.
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What impression would that be? That she’s less religious now? her parda is “fake”? 
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Once I happened to visit one of my Iraqi Muslim female colleague. I actually went to collect my cell phone which I forget at my work place. I was terribly traumatized to see her in extremely short Nikar and sleeveless T- Shirt. She was having her dinner with her family including elder brothers and father. She use to cover at work. Wear Abaya, Never missed her prayers. My entire impression on her changed after visiting her. She said its normal in Arabs. Most of the Arabs family doesn’t follow stern concealment between father daughters or brother sister.
Did you not think she was pious anymore ????
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To be honest, let’s say if I saw my an elderly lady from my family wearing a nicker and sleeveless top just like that, then my impression of her would change too.
It doesnt have to mean that you find the person less religious.
But we all have a set of expectations about others, and I would not expect a pardadaan girl to walk around in shorts and sleeveless t-shirt infront of even her mehrams. And if I did see one, then I would be puzzled too for a while.
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This is a non-issue. Most Pakistanis I know lightly even hug their cousins. People here are making an issue of a non-issue. Pakistanis are generally very open minded people.
Also take this board with a grain of salt.** A disproportionate number** of the people here are British Pakistanis which is the equivalent of Arab American or Dutch Somali. Basically low class people who mix Islam with their ignorant cultures and couldn't tell you the difference between the two.
Aap hazoor ne baith ke ginti ki hai?
Secondly how on earth is clothing even related to hugs? My female cousins have hugged me but I don't see them walking around in nikars, for someone so high class I am disappointed you didn't grasp such a basic concept.
And for someone coming in here just to make such a crass statement, its very amusing to see you of all people label others as low class.
Its as funny as Pinocchio calling someone else a liar.
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Yeah, even non-desies dress more conservatively around in-laws and family.
Hmmm…you feeling okay today?
Anyway, the answer to OP’s question is…it varies from family to family. I have seen Pakistanis dress more conservatively at home than Arab women. I have also seen Arab women dress much more conservatively outside the house than Pakistani women.
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Why don't you err on the side of caution and dress conservatively in front of your in-laws until you figure out what you and they are comfortable with. Long sleeves, loose clothing, if you wear pants a shirt that covers your behind.
Personally, I am comfortable dressing more conservatively in front of my in-laws than I normally do. I used to go visit them after work so had on my work suits (long sleeves -check) but when I go from home, it is always long sleeves, long shirt, and loose pants if not a long skirt and a scarf across my chest because I've come to realize that they like their DILs to dress traditionally. Since I don't have casual desi clothes, I opt for the more conservative western clothes.