^:cb: that would be fun 
A note to others.. yawn like I said.. people that assume too much and are quick to judge never get far in life!
Gina, unfortunately, I used to think the same but realized after a couple of incidents that it's better to be safe rather than being blamed later for "misleading". That's a much more difficult situation to get oneself out of than to be upfront about the context of the so-called date. I've heard and used the word "date" casually as well as specifically.
no no LC problem is some ppl are able to survive because... most of us tend to believe strongly that every one is good. But thats not always the case.
Now what you missing here is its been said its ok for a wife to "date" another man.
Now what If you or I was married and our wives wanted to date other men??????
Lets puts right and wrong , sin or non-sin perspective behind for a sec.
How could a wife/GF NOT understand that how traumatic it is going to be for her husband or bf??
Unless she is completely unable to feel other ppl's emotion. Its called lack of empathy.
This is one of the characteristic "some ppl" show over and over.
And "others" I am done figuring out things. Get help as soon as possible.
PM me and have a list of other symptoms of this condition from most renounced institute. I wont name this condition here.
But I have done enough research.:)
That shallow-ness. phoniness...lies... not being able to keep track of previous conversation...yapping to make ppl like you. . All these things are NOT coincidental.
As you know I am master of "tantrum" here is one for you. I fixed my little nephew. He was hyperactive and unable to play with other kids. Over and over, I told him how other kids felt when they played. Eventually he picked it up and started playing.(one book helped me enough)
For you try to imagine how would YOU feel if your man start doing same to you? If he is Dating other women and stuff.
Cuz I KNOW aap ki cheekheen satween asman per jateen heen.
So please simulate that pain in your head before planing a date while you are married to some "kismat ka mara"
You will be fine too. Its just going to take years. As you might rember my dude it took him about 8 years and some serious set back before he became normal.
aadios.
playstation: before calling me liar remember this, that internet remember every thing. I doubt you would remember what you been writing. so do some research.
PlayStaion2: before being labeled a stalker, let me say this.. I dont know any thing more then what I was told. Or what was written here.
Gud luk
Gina, unfortunately, I used to think the same but realized after a couple of incidents that it's better to be safe rather than being blamed later for "misleading". That's a much more difficult situation to get oneself out of than to be upfront about the context of the so-called date. I've heard and used the word "date" casually as well as specifically.
LC Bhai, girls usually make it clear of what they're intentions are. If it's a casual meet with a friend it's a casual meet..not a 'date'. I'm pretty sure they know their own boundaries and limitations. HUGE line between being married and meeting friends of the opposite sex for lunch/dinner and being married and going out on a 'date'.
LC Bhai, girls usually make it clear of what they're intentions are. If it's a casual meet with a friend it's a casual meet..not a 'date'. I'm pretty sure they know their own boundaries and limitations. HUGE line between being married and meeting friends of the opposite sex for lunch/dinner and being married and going out on a 'date'.
Gina,
may be its a cultural difference then, because I can tell you two instances where I went out with someone on what I thought was a casual offer for supper. In one instance, the girl later asked if she could stay at my place for the night, and it led to an awkward situation. In the second case, I got a text from the girl, a few hours after, saying she had a really good time and we should do this more often. Good enough so far, but she called the very next day to ask if I wanted to come to her place for a movie dinner.
So, I've actually experienced this situation, and if the other person says something like "it will be like a date" as in CP's case, I'd advise him to make sure it isn't being construed differently in each of their minds.
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LC, you must be hawt!
Folks, having lunch with someone AFTER making sure your wife/fiancee/significant other knows, is perfectly fine. It's just LUNCH! And if my desi brothers are so hawt and the girl tries something, walk away, have some control.
To my desi brother CP, trust me, she's NOT trying to get into your pants, no matter how hawt you are, secondly, if you're engaged and married, you could have just said "can I bring me julie with me?" or when you get to your 'Date', make sure you talk a little bit about your wife/SO so that she knows that you are thinking about her.
I swear, she's NOT going to try to hump you, and if she does, boy, where were all these girls when I was single?
^ Shukria bows
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well she might not be trying to hump you but she definitely sounds interested so avoid any potential complications/embarrassments later on and be upfront with her, just in case. its your responsibility to clear your status with her since you are committed and she is not.
LC, you must be hawt!
I swear, she's NOT going to try to hump you, and if she does, boy, where were all these girls when I was single?
With all due respect I am not questioning your hot-ness. But ask your self this.. did you ever wanted that life style.. ever?? My guess is "no" you did not.
I have seen many men talking about casually dating white girls, but they cant let go thier rep/family-life.
This whole scenario has nothing to do whit guys being hawt or any thing.
1-saying "where was I when women wanted to get laid" is easy.... scarifying your rep/potential family life for a HUMP sake is not that easy.
Even if you get a hump offer from Angelina Julie.
From my experience(and I am no brad pitt)
2-I had black women told me on my face "I want your baby"
3-Two girls asked me out "together" twice.
point is... things do happen..depending where you are....
I use to work at the store... just like we men feel too comfortable looking-at and talking to waitresses in restaurants....women do the same too.. if u work a low level job..u will see how women become quiet open expressing them selves....
I was offered money for intimacy-
Like I said its Nothing to do with being hawt... .
Edited!!!
In case you missed it he put “after” in capital letters. As in after a consent with significant other.
Its little different then the other “after”
Where you “date” first and do damage control “after”
And its funny how slowley watching movie with a man is disappearing from converstion.
And how meet-up = date(non sexual—which may lead to things) is becoming a casual and reasonable.
go with the flow
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Unless someone is Tom cruise (which I am not) and girl is really hiding her emotions, its easy to figure the intent of invitation. She is not abducting you or have not invited you in desserts of Navada or jungles of Carolina.
I think she is just paying it back and even if she shows some "other intents" during the lunch, there is nothing stopping you from walking away given that you are willing to walk away.
On top of it, if you really want to avoid any such situation, mobilize in a GROUP instead of ONE on ONE lunches/dinners.
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Monk, dude, I can't argue with you because I can't understand half the stuff you say. Sorry mate.
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read again. all the info is there.
or start with what could understand.
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cricketplaya, take a chaperon with you. I volunteer.
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And ask her to bring a chick too. Double date.
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^ seeing cricketplaya's thread here, I don't think a second chic is needed.
since he does not have any intention with the first one.. she will be free...hmm
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yeah he doesn't sound like an OPENER.
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lolz... it's ok mate(s), u can have the fictional date. :p
It's been a good discussion so far, continue if you like. :D