There was a time when people have enough time to share their happiness and sadness with the fellow people. That time was when ‘Chopal’,‘Dera’ and ‘Otaaq’ were in fashion. Marriage ceremonies were celebrated for long. My Dadi used to tell us that before Mayun, Mehndi, and Nikah, people used to sit together for Dholki weeks before the wedding ceremony. Such ceremonies were not only attended by the relatives, but many people in neighbor and friends actively took part in such ceremonies.
With the advent of technology and introduction of TV and Cable system with hundreds channel available, this communication system is badly affected. Kisi ke paas kisi ke liye time hi nahin
How do you see this change? Has this affceted our social lives?
Are traditions related to wedding ceremonies followed with same josh o jazba as in past?
It entirely depends upon families involved and location of marriage, my brother's marriage took a week, though Anandkaranj and bidai took place within 24 hours:). My wedding took nearly three days and marriage and bidai was in less than 12 hours:D
Anandkaranj is equivalent to Nikah in muslim, where both bride and groom are married in Gurudwara where granthiji will ask if they agree to be husband and wife.
Pakistan is the only country where separate Anandkaranj act is promulgated, In india sikhs are in hindu marriage act which I support on personal reason but not on sikh religious reason:)
Best is one country one act:k:, common civil code:k:
Besides that I’m talking about the overall interaction of the society, where people could share the happiness and problems with the others. Can we associate increasing psychological problems to this lack of communication?
well in my lil khandaan here in KSA we share our happiness & problems.
In a marriage we certainly dont have all these mayun / mehendi and all as functions.Formal functions are only the rukhsati & walimah.
But we do get together and do with the decorating & buying stuff & preparing and all that.Those of us who can stay over stayover,those who cant ,dont stay over but this is strictly FAMILY only.
That;s how m cousins sisters & khala’s & csn bros marriages were
And no when one of my cousin bro got married in India and we had ppl from all over teh place staying at the house it was NOT fun.We could barely move around without ppl commenting or watching us.We could barely do anything.
So its definitely NOT fun.
I think information revolution has brough better communication, the boyfriend-girlfiend couple talk almost for 18 hours because of it:D. I think psychological problems were always there, because of better medical care and medical awareness people now even know that certain problem is psychological one:)
More than that in Indian punjab, marriage is unnecessary expenditure too, an average marriage in rich punjabi community is 2-2.5 crore:)
well in my lil khandaan here in KSA we share our happiness & problems.
In a marriage we certainly dont have all these mayun / mehendi and all as functions.Formal functions are only the rukhsati & walimah.
But we do get together and do with the decorating & buying stuff & preparing and all that.Those of us who can stay over stayover,those who cant ,dont stay over but this is strictly FAMILY only.
That;s how m cousins sisters & khala's & csn bros marriages were
And no when one of my cousin bro got married in India and we had ppl from all over teh place staying at the house it was NOT fun.We could barely move around without ppl commenting or watching us.We could barely do anything.
So its definitely NOT fun.
But the marriages in Pakistan are also not that different, :)
I think information revolution has brough better communication, the boyfriend-girlfiend couple talk almost for 18 hours because of it:D. I think psychological problems were always there, because of better medical care and medical awareness people now even know that certain problem is psychological one:)
More than that in Indian punjab, marriage is unnecessary expenditure too, an average marriage in rich punjabi community is 2-2.5 crore:)
This extra communication of 18 hours before marriage leads to the situation, where couple start asking question from each other soon after their marriage 'Aur sunao, aur kia'.
Actually communication means have increased, but this has resulted in poor communication between those who were connected through Chopal, Dera and like systems. Today, people kill their time while watching time and don't interact even with neighbors too much.
This extra communication of 18 hours before marriage leads to the situation, where couple start asking question from each other soon after their marriage 'Aur sunao, aur kia'.
Actually communication means have increased, but this has resulted in poor communication between those who were connected through Chopal, Dera and like systems. Today, people kill their time while watching time and don't interact even with neighbors too much.
this 18 hour with marriage nearly gave me a heart attack, last year in october my brother got married and loadshedding of 18 hours was taking place in Lahore at that time... :( we felt very relieved after the marriage ceremonies ended without a drama.
Marriage is all about Halla gulla.
