I know this might not be the most politically correct thing to say, and while I am for a woman’s right to choose whether she has children or not since its her body, when it comes to this, I lean a bit towards the conservative side :halo:
The idea that one can choose to NEVER have children is just inconcievable. I definitely want to have kids in the future, and that there’s a chance that I might be unable to (never know what Allah has in store) is heartbreaking enough but I cant imagine how someone could NOT want to have children. I’m not talking about those who try to have kids but don’t but thsoe who make the conscious choice to never have their own kids or adopt.
Their reasons being.. they don’t want to be tied down, they want to be able to change careers/relationships/cities easily, without any hassle.
They claim to be unfairly targetted, like they are the first ones asked to stay late for work since they won’t have “family” to interfere with that and society will look down on them as being selfish.
I know this is very un-PC to say but I kinda agree, I think the “not wanting to be tied down to anything” excuse just seems very immature.
But on teh other hand, I know there are worse things, liek really horrible parents who will have kids and then beat them and kill them; also, i know its not my place to decide who should have kids and who should not. But again, the idea that someone could just NOT want children.. its just such a foreign concept to me :halo:
i want to have tonz of kids and then let them take over the house and i’d live in the garage with my voti and manji. thats all i need to enjoy life. with her i don’t need anything except her, her love and her big mesmerizing smile and those magistical eyes :love:
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if they think they don;t want such responsibilities for whatever reasons then its good for the unborn child aswell. bcoz they should not suffer [lack to love, attention, care] bcoz of their stupid parents.
I don't think most women out there NEVER want to have kids, or never experience the desire to have them.
Usually, you'll hear the I-never-wanna-have-kids from ladies who are at a point in their lives when they're not ready/capable for it. That doesn't mean they will NEVER want to have kids.
So what? Let them. No one is forcing them to have kids (at least not by gunpoint). And its ok. There are too many people in the world as it is. We have trouble enough standing each other, so a few people less in the world won't be a big deal.
Yeah some womans choosing for not having childrens because
it doesnt fit in their life like bussy with job or
they feel they are bonded if they have kids.
Now that I'm getting to the stage in my life when I'm thinking about having children, I can understand several reasons why someone wouldn't want to (tho I still want to).
It's a huge responsibility and I really don't want to screw the kids up. You really have to be giving and self-sacrificing to be a good mother, I think, and I wonder sometimes if I'm too self-centered to be a good mother.
Then also is the whole issue of bringing children into a world that seems scarier and scarier with each news item. I know that as long as I raise my children well they'll be fine, inshAllah, etc etc, but I still worry.
I've known from the beginning that kids are a HUGE responsibility, and you have to sacrifice for them, there's no other way around it, but they are worth it.
I know that i'm not ready right now, i'm too young and immature and self centered [even though i'm getting the i wanna baby feeling again :(] to be a mom right now, but I deff want to in the future. i have same doubts as you but I still want to have em.. there's no other choice in this matter..
with all the nephews and nieces around me & their rona dhona cheekham cheekh and shor sharaba...i'm reconsidering my decision to have 300+ kids. i think bachay do hi chungay verna ho jao ge nungay :p
I know that i'm not ready right now, i'm too young and immature and self centered [even though i'm getting the i wanna baby feeling again :(] to be a mom right now, but I deff want to in the future. i have same doubts as you but I still want to have em.. there's no other choice in this matter..
choices hazar hein. only thing is to make the right one.
however, if someone doesnt want to i guess thats their choice...i dont mean to drag religion into this...but the Prophets (pbuh) wife Aisha had no children....because she believed her role in life was different...it was to spread Islam etc.
I think its individual preference. What may be inconceivable to you is conceivable to someone else and vice versa. If two people choose to not have kids, it may very well be a wise decision. Remember, the desire to have children can't be forced.
I agree with PCG though. Many people do change thier minds later in life.
Obviously. But that doesn't mean that everyone is equipped to be a parent. And, that does not make them selfish. My parents know a couple who has chosen not to have children. They go around the world to help ppl in lesser developed country as they are both doctors. Is this selfish? If they had children, it would be extremely hard for them and extremely difficult for the child. I don't see how their choice is selfish in anyway since they have touched and helped so many people.
Also, i think it's a personal decision. One that society should not be so judgemental about. Given the amount of children neglected, if more people actually thought about whether they are equipped to be parents, maybe less children would suffer.
Also, i think it's a personal decision. One that society should not be so judgemental about. Given the amount of children neglected, if more people actually thought about whether they are equipped to be parents, maybe less children would suffer.
im not saying its selfish...i was just trying to explain what lifeless may have meant when they said selfish.
the doctors ur talking about -thats masha-allah very nice of them, May Allah help them in their noble work. Ameen :)
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