Re: Choices to move for desis/Pakistanis…
easier done when single, as career gets established, its harder to move about, marriage means move has to factor in 2 careers, and then with kids, house etc, you have less flexibility, so the move has to be more deliberate, and then the total package of pros and cons which vary person to person play out. some may have a good social circle they don’t want to part with and all that. in some cases particular industries are big in certain cities and moving to another place which you may like changes career prospects, to some that is okay to others it is not.
Although i have to say when we first moved to chicago, of our usual hangout crowd everyone has moved and to a diff region, and interestingly enough no one has gone to the place they said they wanted to move.
the couple that was all about bay area is in texas 
the couple that was interested in florida is in oregon
those who were interested in southern cali are in carolinas
those who wanted to move to virginia are in NJ, although they did move to virginia first but moved due to work
before I moved to chicago, i was in midwest temporarily and wanted to move back to the east coast, but one thing led to another and I am here