That is why quran says "aik mard aur aurat kay darmiaan teesra shaitan hota hai"
Quran didn't say kay aurat aur na mahram kay saath teesra shaitaan hota hai.
So itna clear to quran nain kah dia.
Aik bhi rishtay ka zikr nahen kia kay us kay ilawa. Is say ziada aur kia taleem chahyay maaoon ko especially aur baapon ko specially.
Sub kioon bhool gaay hain kay Hazrat Yousuf aur Zulaikha ka bhi to maamla manzar pay laya gia tha.
Quran main yay bhi hai kay zulm ko pehlay zuban say phir haat say roko agar naheen roak saktay to dil main bura jaano jo imaan ka sub say akhri hissa hai.
Ba mutabiq quran as a parent aap zuban aur haath say roak saktay hain so qadam uthain Allah ka naam lay kar aur kisi baat say na darain.
Allah huq ka saath deta hai. Naam aur badnami denay wala bhi Allah hai.
AGar aaj aap nain apni buchchi kay liaay qadam uthaya to aap ko jo daard milay hai apni maan kay qadam na uthanay ka to wo dard ko bh dawa milaay ga.
If I was the mother. I'd call up all the family and tell them that there's a little gathering. Invite the molester too. And then I'd go up to him and give him the most biggest slap that his cheek would go numb forever. humiliate him in front of the whole family, sort the story out straight in front of them and I wouldn't give a rat's arse if the family told anyone.
I'm sorry no-one would ever touch my daughter like that again. Who the hell does he think he is?!
It is a mother’s responsibility to protect her child from pedophiles! Child molestation can happen to anyone, anywhere. Pedophiles belong in jail with the keys thrown away!
This news would be devastating for me, as I am a Mother. But this isn't the time to become weak and scared. If my child told me this, I would believe her without a doubt and keep her away from that *so-called-*cousin. I would confront that cousin and his family giving a firm warning to that cousin.
I wouldn't be concerned or scared of breaking relationships up over something as serious as this. I would trust and believe my child first! An issue like this should not be ignored.
And depending on how serious the molesting is, if it was more than 'talk' and went into any sort of touching i.e.kissing, fingering, rape - then I would call the Police without fear, hesitation or guilt if I was in England. However, if I was in Pakistan, I wouldn’t bother calling the Police. I would deal with the cousin myself, tie him up with some duck tape, skin him alive and whip him with all the barb wire’s I can get hold of!
Seriously, I am like a Mama elephant when it comes to protecting my child! *Hehe! *:)
Do anything to prevent another child from suffering this anguish.
you know rabia what i noticed about pakistani molesters (someone correct me if i am wrong) but they tend to do this when they are young and unmarried. After marriage they dont molest again...and they dont even think about molesting their own child. Just an observation I made upon hearing about stories like this and seeing the molestor later in life.
someone once told me this is the norm for the older generation in pak. it's out of curiosity since many of these guys have been sexually deprived of any physical/emotional intimacy or sex education..... NOT that it makes it right or anything! but it may be just that.
so what do you all think...curiousity? lack of education? or are they just pure perverts with mental issues?
it's unlike molesters in the west....they do it before marriage and continue even after having their own family...some even do it to their own children.
I haven't heard any thing like that in my family ever. So I don't know. But I don't think after marriage they can stop molesting only a few cases but most probably they can do molesting to their child too.
Once I heard my mom was telling her friend and she didn't know that I was listening in other room.
My mom was telling her friend kay aik apni doosri friend kay ghar wo gaeen to daikha chacha apni bhateeji kay shirt main haath dala huwa tha aur bhateeji khail main magan thi like normal.
Meri ammi nain apni dost ko bataya kay tumhara daiwar tumhari beti kay saath aisa kar raha tha to larki ki maan boli yay in logon main hota hai sub aik doosray ko aisa hi kartay hain aur aisa kahtay huway wo hans rahi thi.
If I was the mother. I'd call up all the family and tell them that there's a little gathering. Invite the molester too. And then I'd go up to him and give him the most biggest slap that his cheek would go numb forever. humiliate him in front of the whole family, sort the story out straight in front of them and I wouldn't give a rat's arse if the family told anyone.
I'm sorry no-one would ever touch my daughter like that again. Who the hell does he think he is?!
Exactly! Good for you!
This is the strong attitude we parents need to have. :)
I was just teasing...of course I knew when you crossed 2000 posts! I will also know when you cross 2,500 posts cos' I am always watching you...mwah ha ha!
Why are our people such cowards when it comes to protecting our most precious assets, our children, if we were to replace the word 'child' with 'large flawless diamond', had any person damaged this rock causing it to loose the majority of its worth, our people would create the biggest of arguments & DEMAND compensation. But when it comes to our kids, the most valuable things on the planet, too many of us would rather brush it under the carpet & let our children suffer to avoid "shaming" the family. Screw what people think, obtain justice for you child, the police cannot give you this, other people need not know the details of why or who did it as long as the perpetrateor is neutralised so they no longer can practice their evil ways.
Karma is greatly misunderstood, what goes around must be made to come around so that it counts.......just dont publicise you actions. This way your family gets no negative publicity, as far as his side are concerned their son/cousin was unlucky..... they can blame it on jadoo, evil spirits etc & you guys can get on with life, giving as much support to the victim as possible allowing her/him to believe the misconception of karma, that he bought it on himself because of what he did, hopefully she/he will get some comfort from the fact that he got what he deserved, take your secret to your grave.