My wedding is this year and I had a question about children being at the wedding. Not to be rude or anything at all, but some families my mom invited, their kids are really loud and shararati 
I have our hall decorated with really nice center pieces. Most of these kids are between the ages of 5-8. I donāt know what to do because I am so nervous they will ruin my wedding day. I have seen how these kids behave when they all come together they go wild. Any suggestions? Anyone went through this? Please let me know Thanks
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Babysitters! I've hired two or three depending on the number of kids for my wedding and my brother's and it's worked like a charm each time! Give them a couple of hundred bucks, make sure they have CPR training and experience entertaining kids and you are golden. You won't see nor hear the Bachha party for the entire evening and their parents will get a lovely breather to enjoy the evening too.
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Babysitter in an adjacent room with some entertainment and pizza would be best. If that's too pricey, maybe make some little bags with things they can play with, but ages 5-8 are more difficult to entertain in this manner. This is one of those situations I'd let a kid play on a smartphone.
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Oh and I advertised for sitters on Craigslist and both times was lucky enough to hire nurses who just wanted to make some quick, easy money in between their days off.
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set up couple coloring tables in the back for kids.
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Could you not have got away with not inviting them? It really annoys me when kids are running riot and mothers don't stop or control their kids. My kids are no angels at home, but when we go to someone's house or out they don't leave my side!
The babysitter idea is good, with food and movie, activities in another room. Or else I have been to a few weddings that's have had bouncy castle and balloon modellers.
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Just invite Mr & Mrs ... not the family. For many reasons I only invited entire families that are my relations or very very close friends. Rest we just invited Mr & Mrs, so only hubby & wife. Husband did the same from his side of guests. But I remember there was this one couple he gave the Mr & Mrs card to ...they RSVPed 2 people but not only did they bring their 4-6 kids, but their entire khaandaan - like parents, brother , sister etc etc. That actually ticked my parents off too ... like hello we had a guest count done and confirmation to the hotel with head count. That sort of thing just annoys me.
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Thank you for such great ideas. I was actually thinking to get a babysitter, but thennnnn for some reason I think the parents would want their kids right next to them and not in another room. I have a feeling that will happen. Arghhh
Just an fyi. The part of the world I live in, desi families feel really offended if the invitations that they received from another desi family says Mr and Mrs only.
My wife and I would never attend a social event if it says mr and mrs only. I would rather spend time with my kids, then at a social function where my kids are not wanted.
And I will check with those who are annoyed by kids, few years later when you would have your own kids. Let's check then how many mr and mrs only you would accept.
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^^ true!
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Agreed
Just an fyi. The part of the world I live in, desi families feel really offended if the invitations that they received from another desi family says Mr and Mrs only.
My wife and I would never attend a social event if it says mr and mrs only. I would rather spend time with my kids, then at a social function where my kids are not wanted.
And I will check with those who are annoyed by kids, few years later when you would have your own kids. Let's check then how many mr and mrs only you would accept.
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Snipers with tranquilizer dart guns could work in a pinch also
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I dont take my kids to desi weddings in general. They don't enjoy it's, stuff runs way too late so I would rather have them be home with a baby sitter watching movies and going to bed at a decent hour.
But I can understand the mess that some kids can make. Shadi, eid, community mela you see the ones going wild and destroying everything in their path with parents oblivious, unwilling or unable to do anything.
The thing is you will offend some ppl., some will be offended that you want their kids in the kid section with sitters and games. You know what, You may want to rather offend some ppl and have a great time than accommodate everyone's preferences and not have a good day.
I dont take my kids to desi weddings in general. They don't enjoy it's, stuff runs way too late so I would rather have them be home with a baby sitter watching movies and going to bed at a decent hour.
But I can understand the mess that some kids can make. Shadi, eid, community mela you see the ones going wild and destroying everything in their path with parents oblivious, unwilling or unable to do anything.
The thing is you will offend some ppl., some will be offended that you want their kids in the kid section with sitters and games. You know what, You may want to rather offend some ppl and have a great time than accommodate everyone's preferences and not have a good day.
^ This!
99.9 % weddings in our community don't even serve dinner until well past 10:00 pm...after all the speeches, skits, stage rasms and other nonsense lol...by then my kids are a cranky mess. I'd much rather leave them at home with a babysitter. Mr and Mrs only invites don't offend me. If I can line up child care, I go..if not, I don't.
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wow this is crazy, rude and disrespectful. Remove the center pieces OR just invite Mr. and Mrs
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Pisiform](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/members/pisiform.html) for your kind info, like I said I donāt mean to be rude in any way, so please watch your words. Also, itās my big day and I would love everything o flow well. Itās not about Mr and Mrs either. Itās about having a peaceful wedding, because believe it or not, most of the wedding I have been too, the kids have been out of control. And what do the parents do? Nothing. I donāt mind kids coming, but my fear like i said is fooling around. I obv invited the whole family and not just mr and mrs. I was just figuring out a way kids can have their own room and enjoy ( those who are loud mostly) If they are quiet , I donāt mind them sitting with their parents at the wedding.
Itās my day and I deserve it to be the way I want. So please keep your rude comments to yourself. I am using this forum just for āadviceā
Anyhow, Thank you everyone, who advised me some tips.
And regarding to the person who said āwait till you have kidā. All I want to say is that if I have kids, I will make sure the behave in a good manner at such events. BUT then there are some kids, who are bashing everything down and the parents dont care. I dont mean to offend anyone, but this is the reality.
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Just an fyi. The part of the world I live in, desi families feel really offended if the invitations that they received from another desi family says Mr and Mrs only.
My wife and I would never attend a social event if it says mr and mrs only. I would rather spend time with my kids, then at a social function where my kids are not wanted.
And I will check with those who are annoyed by kids, few years later when you would have your own kids. Let's check then how many mr and mrs only you would accept.
If I know how my kids behave in public as children, I would not take them to a wedding where I know they will cause trouble, because that is just embarrassing. A person does not get married over and over again. It's a one time thing and needs to be perfect ( as I am a girl) Also, it all comes down to how you train your kids. If someone sends me a Mr and Mrs invite, I would not mind at all. But then again, this is a personal preference,
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lol I totally get you. I am not a big fan of annoying kids either if you go read my blog. But keep in mind that it is YOU who are inviting them. I am sure those parents would rather stay home and spend sometime with their own family/kids rather than showing up at your wedding and bringing your gifts. But they are here because YOU invited them, it is NOWHERE you said kids are not allowed. You invited the kids too. No one would have any problem if you invited Mr and Mrs and you can get all your hunky dory wedding.
Kids, most of them these days are annoying as hell and I agree. There is little you could do to stop that. Babysitter would work for small age group kids but a little bigger ones they like to run down the aisle playing Tag.
And my words are perfectly fine. You should stop getting emo. What you are doing is not nice in my opinion.
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I know how you feel. I want a Mr. & Mrs. only wedding and my parents shot it down because people here get very offended. Plus, the most batameez kids (sadly) are my future in-laws bachay. They wreaked havoc when we went for rishta talks/engagement so I can only imagine how crazy they're gonna get with glass centerpieces/flowers/stage. ugh.
I hate to be rude but I don't want to be approached by security all night because some kid went crazy and jumped into the fountain/ran around the hotel lobby (happened at 2 weddings I went to and I felt SO bad for the bride). I'm all for bringing your kids, but if you can't watch over them and let them run amock, then...I don't want you to bring them to one of the most important events I'm going to have. sorry.
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^ which blog that be, P_form. Pray tell.