How many times have you seen children used as pawns in marital disputes?
Why do some people become blind to how this impacts their child?
Are they so caught up in their anger that they don’t care anymore? Do people who behave this way ever love their child to begin with?
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People use children as pawns to emotionally blakmail the other side and win on their own terms. It's all about winning by hook and crook by self loving people. :(
Re: Children as Pawns - Why?
its the mothers mostly.
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^ wtf??
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i read that as prawns. that's some fried rice i aint eatin.
Re: Children as Pawns - Why?
its the mothers mostly.
nice try....nobody's biting.
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i saw that as prawns too 
sorry i have nothing to contribute.
backs out of thread after being totally unhelpful
Re: Children as Pawns - Why?
i read that as prawns. that's some fried rice i aint eatin.
Same here!
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Only the most selfish and truly manipulative parents do. I despise people who use children as pawns, so much so I am a witness to it, I will call them out!
Destroying their lovely imaginative brains by feeding them stupid crap. Kids should be kids!
I broke off a friendship just because of this. They'll hate you when they grow up!!
How many times have you seen children used as pawns in marital disputes? Why do some people become blind to how this impacts their child? Are they so caught up in their anger that they don't care anymore? Do people who behave this way ever love their child to begin with?
Re: Children as Pawns - Why?
its the mothers mostly.
Mothers do win custody like 99% of the time. It can be unfair on fathers. Clear biasses in the law.
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Fathers are not adequate caregivers. That's why the mothers get custody. The ones who really care and want to be a father do get custody even if its 50%.
Mothers do win custody like 99% of the time. It can be unfair on fathers. Clear biasses in the law.
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I know someone who really wants to be part of kid's life but thanks to the mother and considering child's age he is only allowed to see the baby twice a month for two hours....And this too after 8 months of not being able to see the baby in person or any photo of the baby...Mother also told the court she doesn't want him to take any photo or make a video of the baby cuz he will share it with his family and she doesn't want that... Its just disgusting :(
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I think grown ups can be quite immature when they are in an emotional turmoil.
I know an example of two women who are doing exactly what Fatso wrote above .. they are good educated women and if you talk to them they say they are protecting their kids against evil fathers ! even if that means their kids getting affected and learning to hate their fathers .. perhaps its their way of getting even with the dad , by making him squirm in anger and beg for a single meeting with the child.
At the same time, I know a father as well who seems to think he can get married again but will do everything in his capacity to ensure he creates issues for his exwife all the time ! wont accept her effort to find a suitable partner and hence to get back at her , he will bicker and fight in front of his child ! forgetting that the child is getting frightened of this situation .. He will try to get out of giving any allowance to the child even !
Point being, adults can react aggressively in situations like these , anger is a very dominating emotion and can screw up ones entire foundation, separating couples are usually at loggerheads about everything and it can become extremely hard to deal with ones own feelings + try to create that balanced environment for the child to ensure to him that all is well. Not every man and woman can do this and unfortunately kids bear the brunt of it all consciously or unconsciously :(
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^ wtf??
nice try....nobody's biting.
This thing below..
I know someone who really wants to be part of kid's life but thanks to the mother and considering child's age he is only allowed to see the baby twice a month for two hours....And this too after 8 months of not being able to see the baby in person or any photo of the baby...Mother also told the court she doesn't want him to take any photo or make a video of the baby cuz he will share it with his family and she doesn't want that... Its just disgusting :(
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^ that is ONE example.
also, not sure what country they live in, but unless the father is proven a perv/entirely incapable of looking after the child, i'm pretty sure the mother's weird ass behaviour would never be allowed in a canadian court. the father could appeal and fight for visitation and/or equal rights in the child's upbringing. and if it is in canada, then obviously there is much more to the story.
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SGC they are in Toronto, Canada :(.... I myself could not believe it at first but unfortunately it's happending :( father appealed and this s court decision they said to abide by these rules and they will review the situation after 6 months... I know both parties personally.. Father is straight as an arrow with clean record and mother is as weird and as selfish as they can get :(
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Its just that mothers are emotionally connected to the kids a lot more than fathers mostly, which enables them to do that. Plus having the custody (in most of the cases when kids are young), what i said isn't wrong.
Re: Children as Pawns - Why?
SGC they are in Toronto, Canada :(.... I myself could not believe it at first but unfortunately it's happending :( father appealed and this s court decision they said to abide by these rules and they will review the situation after 6 months... I know both parties personally.. Father is straight as an arrow with clean record and mother is as weird and as selfish as they can get :(
that's pretty bizarre and unfortunate
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Fathers are not adequate caregivers. That's why the mothers get custody. The ones who really care and want to be a father do get custody even if its 50%.
This is just as ridiculously narrow minded and pretty offensive as the troll-post above.
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^ yup!