children and threading

[Paheli00]

Re: children and threading

@njgal

From a personal experience, I was an ugly duckling but I was never bullied. I was raised alongside white blonde naturally beautiful girls and never felt pretty enough or worthy enough. But my parents told me that I was a wonderful person every day and my looks didn’t matter in this life but my personality did.

Thank you for the explaining your views. I have a better understanding as to why you feel the way you do about threading. For what its worth…I will say somthing to address the above.

There is a BIG difference between feeling like an ugly duckling b/c of something that was going on inside of you versus feeling like an ugly duckling b/c your peers are telling you that there is something wrong with your looks. I think its great that your parents told you that you’re wonderul despite your looks. But in your specific case, you were blessed to be in a school where your fellow classmates did not tell you otherwise (ie. you were never picked on/bullied). I do not fault you for not understanding fully what a child/pre-teen truly goes thought when that happens.

I’m truly hope your daughter is just as lucky as you were in this respect (ie. never experiences bullying). BUT in the event that someday she does come and ask you help…please also try to understand what she might feel when she’s in the school without you next to her and is forced to listen to taunts. No matter how much wisdom you pass on at home…being in school for hours and hours…day after day…week after week…and listening to other people isolate you and tell you how weird/ugly/unlovable etc. you are is EXTREMELY difficult for a child/pre-teen to ignore.