Your 10 year old is now conscious of upper lip and wants to get threaded.
Even though you think she’s young, you don’t want her to get bullied. You also don’t want maintenance every 15 days.
So what should you do? take her to the nearest desi salon? wax? Convince her that she doesn’t need it.
What is best solution for delicate skin for young girls.
Lots of my friends that have kids starting middle school are faced with this dilemma. When is too young or late to start?
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I know kids are starting a lot earlier these days - they are a lot more appearance conscious because their peers make them feel self-conscious for not having the media-perfect grooming. While I'd prefer for kids to be older (in their late teens - 16+), if it is affecting their self-esteem than I would allow the child to get threading.
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Take her to the salon and get it waxed. Children get bullied for the smallest things. You don't want her to get low self esteem.
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^ is waxing better than threading? (for maintenance purposes).
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nooooo ten is to young; she’ll have horrible skin when shes older (like me)
I think at minimum 13…
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Children get bullied for the smallest things. You don't want her to get low self esteem.
^ This! If the facial hair is causing discomfort to the child and increases the chances of her getting bullied, then it is the responsibility of the parent to make sure that the issue is taken care of.
One of my sisters had a major issue with this early on (starting at 8/9ish). The hair on her upper lip was very noticeable.....and she also had a case of the unibrow. My mom taught her how to use Nair so that she (sister) could easily do it herself whenever she wanted to. She has been using it with absolutely no issues since then (she's 21 now).
** Of course, I'm NOT referring to situations where girls get their eye brows shaped for "beauty" reasons. My sisters and I didn't start getting our brows shaped until we were 16/17.
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Waxing is less painful and at her age I don’t think she’ll sit still for threading as it can be very painful 
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I would go for threading. Doesnt waxing pull your skin?
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I'd recommend waxing or bleaching it. She isn't too young to start. Upper lip is not so much cosmetic, getting eyebrows threaded is another matter. Please allow her to do her upper lip.
There is a difference between being hygienically clean and looking good naturally and between primping cosmetically. If she was in pakistan, upper lip threading would begin a LITTLE later, simply because other girls have the same issue she does and it wouldn't be cause of undue bullying. It's good to be unique, but not to stand out uncomfortably from the crowd you are in. As a muslim child she will face a lot of issues and prejudice. Your job is to protect her. And ten isn't too young
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One of my punjabi friend started getting her eyebrows threaded at this similar age.
Njgal, I am sorry you are going through this. Go ahead and try waxing/threading, you daughter might change her mind because of the pain :D Do tell her ahead of time.
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Threading would be too painful, try wax or hair removing cream at first. For maintenance you can teach her to tweeze the hair our herself until she is old enough to be able to sit through a threading session.
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Sajalina, we want this to be as painful as possible. Who would want a 10 year old to remove facial hair? Waisay, I have developed a think skin from waxing my lips, so everyone should stick to threading for facial hair.
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I am not a mother yet but I work with school age children. My opinion is that it is better to talk to your daughter and let her know to not be ashamed of who she is. Tell her that it is the quirky things that make you beautiful. First it is threading next it can be boob job. At this age girls and boys need to know that their bodies are beautiful in whatever form. They do not need to fit into superficial standards. Love the way you are and be confident. In my experience, confident kids do not get bullied and they cope with stress much better than children who have body image issues.
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Try bleaching, it will make it less noticeable.
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Oh I feel the pain. This was me at 10. My mom taught me bleach mine until puberty when it became really really noticeable. Then I started to thread. Waxing gave me a very bad reaction I would be all swollen and puffed up.
Try bleaching, I think it shd disguise it pretty well.
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I would not recommend the hair removal creams. And unless she's the right skin tone/hair texture, the bleached mustache will get her just as many comments.
I think you should take her for waxing or threading. If you don't, the social pressure will lead her to figure out a way to do it herself.
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Threading on upper lips hurt!!I say go for waxing.
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I don't think the issue here which facial hair removal system the 10 year should use. It is whether if she should be allowed to. If not, then you should explain her so. Using Nair will just make it too easy for her. Ultimately, Njgal will decide :) I am out.
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Sidra my girls are too young but I will be in the same boat in a few years. My older one is not an issue. The younger is little "bhalo" :)
My khala bleached my facial hair at the age of 13 and without my mom's permission. I don't know how much I would appreciate that.
I think 10 is too young but what if kids are getting teased. If my kid had MAJOR self esteem issue I might give in.
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In one way, I wish I would stick to my guns. 13 means 13. I don't care who says what.
Being ugly duckling is not bad. It makes you value yourself more as a child growing up if you were not dolled up all the time.