children and threading

[njgal]

Re: children and threading

@Paheli00

But why wait until it becomes a “major” issue? Why force the child to experience sadness/depression when the solution is so simple/inexpensive/not against Islam?

I’m not a mother so maybe I’m having a hard time seeing this from the other side. But as someone who actually was bullied in elementary and junior high due to how I looked (stuff that was easily preventable if my mother had put some effort into it)…it’s not something I would wish upon any child.

All the talk about teaching children to be proud of their looks and not care about what other say etc. sound great as a concept. But in reality…when a 9/10/11/12/13 year olds hear cruel comments from their class mates…it truly does have an impact on their confidence. I know this from 1st hand experience and also saw my sister experience it too. Of course I would never advocate something like plastic surgery to change a child’s looks. But something as harmless as getting rid of facial hair…especially if the child herself is asking for help in dealing with the issue…I just don’t understand why any parent would ignore that request for help.

Because SHORT TERM HELP might not be the right solution. An easy solution is sure why not go ahead thread it off. But then you open doors for “someone said I was fat, or my nose is crooked, or my hair is too curly”. Just don’t want to give my gals an easy out.

Low self esteem doesn’t just fester from looks. Confidence can build from participating in sports and other activities and being a part of a community or having a great group of friends that doesn’t value if one has a mustache or not. Parents have a responsibility to give that to their children as well.

From a personal experience, I was an ugly duckling but I was never bullied. I was raised alongside white blonde naturally beautiful girls and never felt pretty enough or worthy enough. But my parents told me that I was a wonderful person every day and my looks didn’t matter in this life but my personality did. One day it sunk in. It didn’t at 13. But it did at 18. I am so glad they did that. It really carried me through brutal risthas, aunties telling me that I would get a better person to marry if I lost 10 pounds, relationships and even my career where it didn’t matter what I looked like. At one point, I knew I was good enough with or without a bit of facial hair.