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^These people should use their brains. Its so ridiculous.
My mom never bothered with anything during my chilla since she thought it was very annoying when she had to go through it all herself....I did have panjeri...and might i add...its so yummy and just what your body needs around that time...I also had this milk drink made of crushed nuts n stuff...yum yum!
A friend and I had our baby showers together...and this aunty was against the idea of having two pregnant ladies under one roof....i dunno the reasoning....but we couldnt care less...
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wow @ some of these stories. so much ignorance!!
ew if those women don't shower for 40 days don't their husbands get repelled from them??!! Doesn't that end up effecting their relationship to some degree :p
oh and to someone who wrote about having backaches after having her baby, it usually happens after giving birth because of the strain on your back.....so you should get it checked out and I doubt its from drinking ice cold water :)
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Well, my doctor in the US told me not to drive for 6 weeks. The preservatives I can understand too. The rest is silly.
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And i drove to my mom's place the 5th day after the baby...
Well, my doctor in the US told me not to drive for 6 weeks. The preservatives I can understand too. The rest is silly.
did you have a c-section?
is there a "chilla" or something similar/equivalent period for women who miscarried?
I'd like to know if there is......
I didn't really observe any chilla or anything with my miscarriages....but just did the usual observations of being na - paak (ie no namaz/praying etc etc)
Only thing was mum made me some food - like methi paak or summat and other stuff...but I didn't really eat it much!
Sometimes in my paranoid moments I have often thought that maybe I didn't do sumthing I was supposed to hence not conceived yet??
Wuld love to know if I should have done something different?
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No chilla in our family, we just rest as much as possible and of course cant pray etc because of the post natal bleeding but as soon as post natal bleeding has stopped we can pray and resume our farz islamically.
Other than that you should definately shower every day and sit in / soak yourself in dettol and warm water 2/3 times a day after giving birth to get the germs off and ward away any infection..it helps you heal better and sooth you if you have had tears or stitches. Keep that area fresh and clean at all times and change pads every few hours. Can't believe some women would never wash or shower for 40 days its disgusting and unsafe.
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oh my God.cant believe there is so much ignorance in our culture....I have heard lots of stories around me and been looking into the 40 days stuff online....I have only found some webistes stating that in Chinese culture women are told to rest for 30 days and not watch TV and keep themselves warm.
That makes sense to me as the body does need lots of rest, eyes need rest from the screen (TV or PC) and mind needs rest too....
However all this about knife under the pillow, jinn ka saya etc is just too much jahalat!! I think daily recitation of Aytal Kursi and 4 Qul for protetction will protect you if you are scared and if you fear burri nazar on ur baby...but a knife?!!!!
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Frankly .. i did all those things, except driving because i didnt know how to drive at that time. And me and my daughter are fine AlhamdoLillah.
And yes .. my friend told me the KNIFE under pillow trick also, i was shocked beyond belief. How scary to have a knife near such a little baby
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I had a shower 15 or 20 mins after giving birth and i mean a proper shower...shampoo, conditioner and everything. I shower everyday and wanted to smell and look nice for my baby and my guests. The rest of the 40 days i pretty much satyed at home because it was December and there was a lot of snow and i didn't want baby getting ill. Also, i had lots of guests comming round everyday to see the baby so i didn't have much time to go out. I loved staying at home for a change as i had worked full time right up until i was 39 week pregnant so i needed a rest at home. My mum made me yakhni everyday but to be honest i didn't have much time to eat and drink with the baby.
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sometimes women can get infected solely for the reason that the soap/shampoo/gel whatever they are using causes some form of irritation in their weewee .... so knowing this, i'd be scared to shower up with soap soon after you have a massive hole down below. :|
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you should not use scented shampoos or conditioner, shower gels as it irrates the baby, it wants to smell the mama's natural smell.
for that reason for the first few weeks i buy a ph-neutral and scent free shower gel and shampoo.
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OMG! there are all there women... who hacve been walking around after only a few days or even hours of giving birth...
and here is my SIL who had a c-section 7 months ago and refuses to lift a finger or carry her baby in her car seat... or even lifting a shoe box. Quite annoying. If you tell her to even hold her shopping bags, she says she cant because of the c-section. HUH? After 7 months? That is either the longest bed rest I have ever heard of or just plain laziness.
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^ laziness!!
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OMG! there are all there women... who hacve been walking around after only a few days or even hours of giving birth... and here is my SIL who had a c-section 7 months ago and refuses to lift a finger or carry her baby in her car seat... or even lifting a shoe box. Quite annoying. If you tell her to even hold her shopping bags, she says she cant because of the c-section. HUH? After 7 months? That is either the longest bed rest I have ever heard of or just plain laziness.
Laziness....!!!..:p
They do tell you to avoid lifting heavy weights and doing anything too strenuous for a while...but 7 months...!!...
I remember they made me get out of bed and walk to the washroom just after 8 hours of the C-section...I know that was obviously for other reasons ,but gosh that was more than horrible...:(...shudders
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These pathetic old wives tales from paindoo land REALLY gets on my nerves. I can understand the logic of not reading, or working around the house straight after birth because your body DOES need to rest, but the things listed in the OP are just plain mad and ridiculous. After I had my 1st baby, I was back in the kitchen cooking a feast for 20 people just 6 days later. Im very active, I can't sit still and after a very quick normal birth, I was going mad just being in bed 24/7 breastfeeding and sleeping.
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All the things people are listing here that women do in their “chilla” are just cultural superstitions. Some of them might have benefit for the new mom, like the panjeeri giving strength or avoiding preservatives etc, but the rest of the things are just made up. So dont worry or get paranoid over it. From an Islamic point of view, there is only the issue of post-natal bleeding, nifaas, after a woman gives birth, which rules are similar to those of menstruation, ie in regards to worship, intimacy etc. For miscarriage, according to the scholars it would depend on what stage of pregnancy the miscarriage took place. If the fetus wasnt formed, then any bleeding afterwards is treated as irregular bleeding [istihada], if it was formed, then it is treated as nifaas. You can check this for more details or consult with a shaykh in your area
So dont worry. You will conceive Insha Allah whenever Allah wills for you, when the time is right. Not following Pakistani customs of chilla will not prevent a pregnancy from taking place!
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Im sorry are we back in elementary school?
we’re all adults here 