My SIL had a baby girl 3 weeks back and sheis staying with my MIL since then. I went to see her over the weekend and was surprised to see what my MIL and the ‘aunties’ around were making my SIL follow I had never heard or done such stuff at all and it seemed all ‘jaahil’ to me.
not wearing new clothes for 40 days .. neither mom nor the baby
not wearing gold
-not watching tv or working on laptop/ mobile screen as eyes are still weak
-not uncovering her head to avoid headaches for life
-not to get off the bed on one leg. it is so funny to see her getting off the bed
-not eating anything with preseravtives
-eating in small bites/smallest sips so that baby doesnt have colic problems
-not letting any lady (or herself) with wet hai inthe baby’s room
-eating all the maroondaas, panjeeris, organic eggs, desi ghee she can
Here’s another one i remember: not doing any parties/get togethers at home when there’s someone in chhila around
All crap i know but it was sad to see my poor SIL all in rage with her mobile seized and doing anything my MIL,her chachees,khalaas,servant,etc told her to avoid. I was all thankful to Allah that i was here in Lahore for my son’s birth and didnt have to go through all of this.
I was told to put a knife under baby’s pillow (takay wo neend mai darr na jaye) by a female relative and while she was saying that another one agreed that it was something that should be done and she herself did as well after her baby was born.
Another one was not to stay by myself in the room, if I remember correctly it was to prevent any possible aasaib.
What nonsense, I did all those things and nothing happened to me.
Chila is not a disease or sickness where you are on bedrest complete, of course u have to take it easy on yourself and ur body to heal the inner wounds, but its not like u have to cut urself from the outer world.
I dont believe in these old fashion meyth, maybe at those old days females were working a lot like outside in the fields and they needed all that ghee stuff and all the bed rest as later it would be work and work, but today with our life and standard, its not necessary to keep with these old pratices, it is said the first 10 days are where no work should be done (i was cleaning and cooking by day 5 :D) later u can gradually carry on going outside and doing light chores, if you had a normal pregnancy. Nothing to block urself from any finger lifting for 40 days, unless of course its ur choice.
oh god i cannot think that some girl didnt take bath for more then a month..
very disgusting…
even girls who had csection take bath …after 3 or 4 days of their operation..
bath is vey healthy and refresing…
ask yr gyny and if she allows hen please take bath with warm water…
i think medically no harm in taking bath aduring 40 days after baby..
thats all jahelo wali batain
I had never heard or done such stuff at all and it seemed all ‘jaahil’ to me.
yeah right like i was gona listen