The only thing we observe is that the first place the mum goes with her child (officially - though in practical life, the kid's got doctor's appointment in the first week) is to the masjid - and this should be after the 40 days - when the woman is paak/taahir. But the not bathing for 40 days eewww!
My mum made panjeeri for my sisters - but it was just because she wanted them to have "protein-rich" food since they were nursing. There was no compulsion to eat it - but I've got to say - it's yummy - so no hardship there. The rest of that list is pure hooeey!
spiral panjiri is made from semolina, which is bhoonified n then u have raisins n nuts n sesame seeds and a few other things so yeah just imagine all these things mixed up if u live near a desi store u can get pre packed containers:)
What my MIL made for my SIL is also very Yummy :D it had lots of coarsely chopped up nuts, jaggery,chaar maghaz,sooji and lots of more things. She has made three types of them.
-not watching tv or working on laptop/ mobile screen as eyes are still weak (to prevent excess/unnecessary strain on the eyes as they are delicate to begin with)
-not to get off the bed on one leg. it is so funny to see her getting off the bed (to prevent excess/unnecessary/improperly balanced strain on the lower back and reproductive organs)
-not eating anything with preseravtives (nutritional value in this naseehat -- good advice in any event chhila or not)
-eating in small bites/smallest sips so that baby doesnt have colic problems (eating/drinking fast and in large bites permits/encourages the ingestion of air which can then cause gas for the baby when you are nursing)
But I fail to see the logic in these:
not wearing new clothes for 40 days .. neither mom nor the baby (to avoid causing irritation to sensitive skin, maybe?)
not wearing gold
**(children tend to react quickly to gold/silver so there may be some sense in protecting them when they are just born)
-not uncovering her head to avoid headaches for life
-not letting any lady (or herself) with wet hair in the baby's room
-not driving the car
And the whole knife thing is completely beyond me!!!!
spiral panjiri is made from semolina, which is bhoonified n then u have raisins n nuts n sesame seeds and a few other things so yeah just imagine all these things mixed up if u live near a desi store u can get pre packed containers:)
Ami just made me some :D I think it also has lots of nuts and such. And coconut.
My grandmother died right after my father was born at home,due to post partum sepsis.
To this day I have heard the elderly ladies in my family say that she died because she did not observe these traditions and went to the roof top after taking a shower,with damp hair where apparently 5 jinns came and made her sick and she passed away…(I still wonder how they knew it was 5 jinns in particular…no offense intended..!!)
My great grandmother ,I have heard,was very particular about these chilla things…She was very particular about one more thing not mentioned here,that you are not supposed to eat anything or drink anything from a home where a woman in her ‘chilla’ is residing…
if only life were so easy for us women and we did get proper rest after our kids were born, i've had 3 kids with c-sections and been up and running within days...i wish someone told me i couldn't lift a finger, I'd have appreciated the rest whether I'd believe in all this superstition or not...because now i feel like a 50 year old, with no 'taaqat' whatsoever, and back problems due to the fact that i was unable to rest after childbirth.
If i was you I'd milk all the sympathy and actually concentrate on looking after the new addition rather than cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing.
I didn't follows any rules pertaining to those 40 days. I was walking 2nd day of my c section . The nurses made me took a bath on 2nd or 3rd day. Since I have been both a father and a mother to my baby from the day she is born I was going out to get stuff for her , taking her to hospital for tests and checkups. My baby stayed in hospital for a total of 2 weeks and i was in and out during whole time. Nothing happened to me I am fine Alhamdolillah I didnt follow any food restriction , drinking restrictions , clothes restriction. To me these are all **nakhras **aur nakhray uthanay walay honay chahye.
Panjeeri-yes my mom made that for me , I dont find any significance of it but I ate it just to make her happy. And yes my mom only let me take a bath once a week :(
i could translate but it sounds better when said this way 