Back then, in older generations, cheating wasn’t that common. But these days every other person is cheating on their spouse hence the increased rate of divorce esp. in the west. Do you think the reason may be back then ladies didn’t use to work, not spending 7-8 hours at work, not mingling with opposite gender as much as girls of this period do? Don’t you think things are more likely to happen & people get attracted to each other if opposite genders spend around 7-8 hours in a same place on regular basis than otherwise? No wonder half the time husbands are banging their secretaries & wives cheating on their husbands with colleagues. Why majority of people have become so immoral?
Why cheating has become so common? Whats your take on this?
Cheating (emotionally or physically) is the only thing that would cause me to end a marriage. If you aren’t happy in your marriage - leave. Don’t give bs excuses like think of the children, you never gave me enough attention, its me not you etc etc. When you cheat, you know what you are gambling with - your husband or wife’s self esteem, confidence, health as well as your children’s stability and future.
men have always been disgusting women trying to catch up, women have taken feminism too far, women no longer put up with anything will rather leave or cheat than be unhappy, women focus too much on fun rather than doing whats best so end up in situations that are tempting and inappropriate, men have always been digusting, internet and cell phone and skype and social media, decline of landline phones means it’s sooo much easier to communicate secretly and send inappropriate text/videos/pictures and even if not doing that any unnecessary communication and socializing with opposite sex after being married can lead to inapprorpiate flirting, the continued sexual exposure of women in the name of female empowerment (LOL!) by west is slowly becoming norm in traditional cultures (grade A “actresses” like deepika is nangi gyrating her hips in every movie..girls grow up thinking this is appropriate), men have always been disgusting, women continued obsession with putting themselves out there and seeking attention, and did I mention men have always been disgusting?
Lol there you go with your nonsense again..I try to contribute to discussions even if inflammatory..im not the one getting offended at every little comment..i do admit, it’s fun seeing you girls get offended over the stupidest comments as though theyre personally directed towards you..I have yet to see a male poster get offended when males get criticized haha..in fact i criticize my own kind all the time but there is no fun in that since no one gets offended over those comments
I am not against women working, but it makes sense that this increases exposure to the opposite gender and potential for infidelity. But you don’t even need to be in close physical proximity to the opposite gender to cheat on your significant other…courtesy of technology. Another reason is the media in various forms. Bolly/Holly-wood churn out movies that present infidelity as something comic or they glorify it under the guise of female awakening/self-liberation. When a vice is both downplayed and glorified by the media, society will eventually become immune to it. It’s a slow process; doesn’t happen overnight and people aren’t aware of its impact. Also, the culture of materialism may be a factor where people are always on the quest for something better and maybe this has seeped into our relationships as well where if it’s not working the way you want, you become dissatisfied more easily…chuck it …and find something/someone “better.” Technology has maybe made us impatient where we want quick results even in our relationships as opposed to putting in the effort to nurture them.
When tubeligh stops posting, mickyminnie gets active. When mickyminnie disappears, pakistanmerijan steps in. Its a coincidence I am pretty sure. All these 3 people probably hate each other thats why you never see them online at the same time
Its a lot easier to cheat now. People are more social now. Media has glamorized cheating. And then of course intermingling of sexes means chances of temptation are more!
cheating and sch other things have become so common because people do not have strong beliefs now. they think they can get better by just being over clever.
if their beliefs are strong enough they would not do anything wrong.
I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but there are still shareef people all around the world. In my 23 years on this planet, no one from my immediate circle of family and friends has ever been known to cheat on one another and ruin each other’s lives. The divorces that took place happened for valid reasons and everyone stands by them to date.
As for women working, i don’t think there is anything wrong with women being out in the work force as long as there is a , as they say in urdu “tameez ka daira”. During my office hours, it’s understood between me and by colleagues that whatever interaction we will have will be in relation to work only. During my time at the pharmacy, i have some seriously kind and respectful patients. There are patients (men) who refuse to look me in the eyes while talking because they want to maintain a respectful barrier (granted they are super religious) but i’m still fine treating them. There are men sometimes who have to discuss intimate details and i always try my best to transfer them to male pharmacists if there is one available (there’s only so much you can avoid in the healthcare field) otherwise i have to counsel myself. I’m not saying there are only good patients, there are people who walk into the room with the sole intention of hitting on you but one has to understand their own limitations and respectful barriers and ask these people to back the hell off. It’s all in your hands how you set an image of yourself. What i’m saying is, there’s ways of being shareef. There’s ways for women and men to be part of the work force without secluding one another or thinking women are better off at home. This backward thinking baffles me.
To answer your last question, majority of people have NOT become immoral. You may think i live in some fantasy world but im an honest believer of the fact that if you surround yourself with good people, you will experience good things. Sure cheating may be common else where but there are bigger agendas going on there with their lives.
Call me delusional but when a man and a woman REALLY understand the concept of marriage as Allah intended it to be and invest that much of their soul and lives into one another, morality and faithfulness stays. But that’s just me. Age, Allahu alam.
Yes you live in a fantasy world..you may have a strong character which is a good thing, keep it up..but there is a significant portion of the world that is NOT decent and even if there are decent people around its not those people one has to worry about, still have to be careful because there are a significant people who are NOT decent.sometimes can’t tell who is truly decent..everyone acts nice, it’s the people who let their guards down thinking this person is decent that end up getting fooled..temptation is around on a daily basis especially for girls who do get hit on much more than men do..men get rejected constantly..while even the most average girl will get hit on when walking on the street..while the majority may not be indecent it’s getting tougher by the day to remain decent because combined with the greater mixing of genders and technology that’s made it easier to interact, the fact is most people seek out fun and entertainment and pleasure and as a result have become more lax and not careful leading them to tempting or inappropriate situations..we all like to think we will be decent and handle the situation well if placed in a tempting situation but it’s not that easy and even the most religious or strong charactered person can stumble in the face of temptation which is why have to be careful and aware of your surroundings..fun isnt everything, every vice is fun also but there has been a greater emphasis on fun these days..I’m all for women working, if I do get married I want a professional wife but for that to happen I will do my due diligence before marrying her to make sure she has a strong character and she is a smart woman who knows how to handle herself and others in potentially inappropriate stations..Trust me this is harder to find than it seems, many girls are so attention hungry and put themselves out there it’s difficult to find a normal person these days (the ones that do exist get taken off the market real quick)
