Re: Changing for marriage
This.
You should not marry someone who’ve a problem with who you are.
Things change after marriage. It would be very naive to think otherwise.
Don’t be rigid in your thinking about who you’re. There is so much we don’t know about ourselves. Know that some things do change and know what you can or will compromise on or not. IMO, we are humans, we change faster than anything else. You will change as well. Your values might also change and most importantly your habits will change. Things you may think of as being “oh so important” right now might some day down the road not have the same importance as you thought they did because that’s life.
But don’t overthink this now. The changes that come with a marriage don’t happen over night for most people. It’s a process over a longer period, if not life time.