I don't think this should be an issue. Your core values make up who you are and should not be compromised.
But be open to change...habits should, can and might change.
This.
You should not marry someone who've a problem with who you are.
Things change after marriage. It would be very naive to think otherwise.
Don't be rigid in your thinking about who you're. There is so much we don't know about ourselves. Know that some things do change and know what you can or will compromise on or not. IMO, we are humans, we change faster than anything else. You will change as well. Your values might also change and most importantly your habits will change. Things you may think of as being "oh so important" right now might some day down the road not have the same importance as you thought they did because that's life.
But don't overthink this now. The changes that come with a marriage don't happen over night for most people. It's a process over a longer period, if not life time.
The responses to my questions make me wonder what aspects of marriage make it difficult. Is it all the lifestyle adjustments in the first year or two?
For a marriage to work, shouldn't the two people be very mature and self-aware, in addition to having very similar values?
its hard to compromise sometimes, and go against your own will. it can be little things or major things like where to live, how many kids to have etc.. for example, i know a couple where the wife doesn't want to move out of the city but the husband really wants to as it's too expensive. they fight 24/7 because of this issue, he complains he cannot afford the lifestyle in the city whereas she is not willing to relocate ever. for me, so far the major issue has been that my husband really wants to have children so i guess this is where i have to compromise although i don't feel ready for such a responsibility. so there are many instances where you might not agree with your spouse or have different things planned but you have to meet at a middle ground somewhere and balance it out. even if your views in general are similar, there are still many issues that arise after marriage. if both parties compromise, things can work out smoothly.
Changed everything that was once important to me. I mean everything..
I am a man and most around me think am not that flexible but looking back before marriage and after, I have changed in everything. And ! Finding a middle ground is also a change, though it's a change for both spouses but a change nonetheless.
I am a man and most around me think am not that flexible but looking back before marriage and after, I have changed in everything. And ! Finding a middle ground is also a change, though it's a change for both spouses but a change nonetheless.