This is getting on my nerves now ! My son is 8.5 months old already and suddenly my husband wants to change his name because some lady in his family who is in astrology and numerology has told him that the name is not ‘muaafiq/suited’ to the baby according to his date of birth and whatever ! I am really upset. Firstly, it was ‘us’ who shortlisted three names and my husband chose the present name for the baby AFTER consulting his dear aunt and now he wants to change it and after a HUGE argument,he’s still headbound ! I am so used to calling him by the name and so does my elder son (3.5 yrs old) AND the baby recognises it as well and responds well when we call him. I feel changing the name will have a psychological effect on all of us and he doesnt think that it is an important enough issue that is so serious. Am I overreacting ?
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what's his name and DOB?
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**i dunno what religion u belong to but i assume you to be a muslim coz most ppl on GS are. sorry for my assumptions:
in islam there is no place for these astrological/numerological beliefs. we believe in, as part of the kalima, that ALL good and bad things come from Allah and NO one EXCEPT Allah can remove that. Having said that, we must not not be superstitious. its bad for our iimaan. we must believe in the absolute power of Allah. if something bad happens in life, it happens for a devine reason and the reason we may never know. so we must have absolute TRUST in Allah and not worry about trivial things. what we must worry is how to please Allah, that we can do by followings his commands which have been revealed in the Qur'aan and AHaadess...may Allah guide us to the right path...sirata ul mustaqeem that is...aameen**
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I don't think its that big of a deal. I see people chaning their kids' name all the time. I don't believe in this astrology or whatever but I also don't think that chaning a baby's name will have any psychological or emotional or whatever effect on anyone. If you both agree, go ahead change his name. But again don't do it because that some lady randomly comes up with oh this isn't right for the baby, do it only because you want to.
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I don't think its that big of a deal. I see people chaning their kids' name all the time. I don't believe in this astrology or whatever but I also don't think that chaning a baby's name will have any psychological or emotional or whatever effect on anyone. If you both agree, go ahead change his name. But again don't do it because that some lady randomly comes up with oh this isn't right for the baby, do it only because you want to.
agree 100%...sahi baat karna to koi aap se seekhe :D
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This is really common, especially in Pakistan. A few of my cousins had their names changed when they were babies but i have never understood this idea 
The explanation given when the reason was asked is that ‘the name did not suit the baby’ 
and that the they baby was always sick before they changed the name.
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^ I read about instances when Hazrat Muhammed(SAW) changed the names of babies because the name had a wierd meaning and the baby used to stay really sick. My son is doing perfect health-wise Alhamdulillah and I would’ve had NO problems if his dad didnt like the soundof it or just didnt feel it was nice to call him by or any reason like that BUT I cannot ever get convinced with his THIS particular reason and have already had huge arguments and came to a conclusion that I cannot win being a wife and cannot change an AQEEDA of anyone unless Allah decides to guide him/her :sigh:
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So the same aunt who told you guys name was fine is now telling otherwise? Ask your husband if she comes with a different verdict on the new name after a while, would he consider changing it again?
Hope you will be able to reason with him.
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well, pay someone else 20 bucks to have them say the same kind of stuff about husband's name. maybe even suggest he should change his name to hazrat nebuchadnezzar..
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i think u said the right thing…its Allah who guides the misguided. islamically sometimes, for the sake of peace in the house, if its not too serious of a problem, its best to let it go rather than dwell on it and cause a bigger problem and, as a result, push that person even farther from Allah. there isn’t anything wrong with changing the name. ur aitaqaad is clear so i wud suggest let it go.
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Prototype, your husband seems to have very Hindu beliefs, and that's fine, too each his own. What I would say is that if you, as the mother, disagree about the name change then you should stand up for YOUR beliefs.
Also, at the risk of sounding rude, your husband sounds like an idiot.
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So the same aunt who told you guys name was fine is now telling otherwise? Ask your husband if she comes with a different verdict on the new name after a while, would he consider changing it again?
Hope you will be able to reason with him.
I already discussed it and have warned him that I am NOT listening to any such crap after this one about me or my kids ever !
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well, pay someone else 20 bucks to have them say the same kind of stuff about husband's name. maybe even suggest he should change his name to hazrat nebuchadnezzar..
thanks but I dont want to get involved in such practices for any reason !
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i think u said the right thing...its Allah who guides the misguided. islamically sometimes, for the sake of peace in the house, if its not too serious of a problem, its best to let it go rather than dwell on it and cause a bigger problem and, as a result, push that person even farther from Allah. there isn't anything wrong with changing the name. ur aitaqaad is clear so i wud suggest let it go.
though pretty serious for me right now,this is what I have finally resorted to ! Thanks :)
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Prototype, your husband seems to have very Hindu beliefs, and that's fine, too each his own. What I would say is that if you, as the mother, disagree about the name change then you should stand up for YOUR beliefs.
Also, at the risk of sounding rude, your husband sounds like an idiot.
I didnt put it up to hear such comments for my husband ! Thanks for your input though.
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though pretty serious for me right now,this is what I have finally resorted to ! Thanks :)
Allah will bless u and ur baby and the family iA...have faith and hope. :)
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I didnt put it up to hear such comments for my husband ! Thanks for your input though.
No offense but this aunty sounds quite stupid.
And isn't astrology/numerology haram? : (
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yes it indeed is !
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I don't think you're overeacting.....
Its going to be difficult for your older son to understand the name change.
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proto I have encountered this issue with 2 people and both of the times I have learned that the name that is given 1st is the name that will always matters and changing the name won’t make any difference. But since your husband is doing this out of good intentions and love for his child let him do it and no you are not over reacting 