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If he was sniffing cocaine and you didnt know, then there are serious issues in your marriage.
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So about that coke. If you're not going to throw it away... Hook a brother up?
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I think its time to clarify a couple of things.
Me and my hubby have known each other for 10 years and been married 3 thats why i said i moved into the area
We just never lock the bathroom door, its only me and him so if i know he's in there i dont walk in simple. however that day it was 6am and he was not in bed. he was in the bathroom, door locked. i asked him how long and his response was very quick, didnt sound like him. so i pushed the door and the lock fell off. its not a key lock so it was just scrwed on.
does that clarify things better.
i post things for advice not just to create a thread for the sake of it.
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Red Ruby- have you spoken to your husband since then about the coke? Is he still snorting it? Any change in his behavior?
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update - that day i found this out i spoke to him and said if this is the first time then i can understand mistakes can happen as long as u have can stay away from this and dont let it happen again. i was very mad that day and said what i felt etc. i told him i married him and dont want to let this ruin everything so hopefully he feels the same way. things have been good all week. i have not thrown it in his face, just want him to deal with this withhout me being the judgemental wife.
everything was going very well all week and bang last nite i was up at 4am and came down and he'd been out all nite, went after work, and he had done it again. i am shocked and disgusted that he has let my silence and support act like a barrier of my feelings and just fobbed me off and done what he wanted. today im not crying,or upset or angry, i feel completely blank, emotionless.
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Easier Option = Leave him
Difficult Option = Help him (Not possible without a lot of patient efforts and prayers. Discuss with Scholars, close relatives and doctors).
Most tempting option = Emotionally hurt him and yourself.
Up to you to decide which one of the 3 options is fruitful in this life and hereafter.
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this morning when i was just sat there staring into space i actually thought of these exact options.
do u think i shud tell his family cos im lost in what to do
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If he has an addiction then you can't expect him to stop overnight, addictions don't work that way. If he is willing to give up his addiction then he'll probably need to do it with aid from you, his Dr and a support group. If he is genuinely willing to kick his habit and you want to support him do that, then speak to a Dr, or contact a drugs helpline and see what they advise.
You need to be realistic though, and not expect miracles overnight. It could take a while for him to work through his addiction and face his issues. This will probably mean a lifestyle change for him as if he does have an addicition, then abstinence is the only option and that also means abstinence from any environment and friends that make the coke more accessible to him. It will be tough, and he will need support, do you have the strength alone to provide it? If not, then telling his family might be a good option.
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everything was going very well all week and bang last nite i was up at 4am and came down and he'd been out all nite, went after work, and he had done it again. i am shocked and disgusted that he has let my silence and support act like a barrier of my feelings and just fobbed me off and done what he wanted. today im not crying,or upset or angry, i feel completely blank, emotionless.
wait... so he's still doing the drugs?
Maybe you should leave him for just a short time period. Say 2 weeks? Then check up on him and see if he changed. If he hasn't, then tell his family. You might not be enough to get him to stop. Perhaps intervention from his family might change things.
Like the others have said... get a hold of some phone numbers, rehab/addiction centers, etc. for information and help. It just won't be of any use if your husband doesn't want to quit.
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I apologize to act like Sherlock Holmes Ruby but many things dont add up in your story ..
The bathroom was locked but you found it odd and asked him to open it? Strange, cause even when my wife and I are alone at home, I like to lock so she accidentally does not walk in and find me wiping my bum. Few things require extreme privacy.
you broke the lock? and how did you do that without him getting the time to hide the cocaine?
I also have little disbelief on this that you said that you are married for 10 years and just moved into this area, means he also does not know many people. You dont know many to ask for help, but he knows enough to buy cocaine?
Are you making it up missy?
Dear Red Ruby, I extend my deepest and lying. Its extremely sad that I formed my opinion based on your words only. I lack the power of looking behind the words that so many of our posters posses.
And I am sure that all those who, just based on your words are passing a judgment that your hubby is a drug addict, well they will rot in mud.
Sincerely
TLK
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Wow man you hit the skys of Sarcasm.
Red Ruby If you have any of the good stuff left please dont give all to **goddamniamsoawesome](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/members/goddamniamsoawesome.html), **I am your well wisher too. 
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Abay, ab apology bhee sarcasm ho ga'ee ..
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Abay nahi.. i have a name "Paki larka" Just becoz u r director doesnt mean you can call me abay.
And for this Insult I Pakilarka (Chairman of GUPSHUP) suspend you for 5 mins. You will not be Serving as Director GupShup for next five minutes (3:20 - 3:25) EST. I hope you learn something from this deserving suspension.
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OK guys, please allow me to move these offtopic posts. I've got to do my job. :)
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is sab discussion ka "caught my husband red handed" say kia lainda daina ?
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is sab discussion ka "caught my husband red handed" say kia lainda daina ?
Hai na, dont you see my plan was.... TLK will make off topic post and Niksik can move his posts saying ""caught my husband red handed"
Plz move this post too. :(
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lol Pakilarka. No I'll leave your post here :D
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everything was going very well all week and bang last nite i was up at 4am and came down and he'd been out all nite
Being honest what he might/might not have been up to all night would bother me more..
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i have to say that some people have genuine problems they share to gain support and advice. however, some of you feel its necessary to turn every post into a joke. If you cant make a genuine decent comment please leave your sarcasm out of it and spend your time on something morer suited to your character.
I have been thru alot of stuff over the last week and iv tried being forceful and even told him i will notify his family if this isnt sorted and last nite instead of being like that i sat down and talked to him and got down to the bottom of it. i am supporting him thru this bit by bit. i dont know yet if he will successfully pull thru this but i cant turn my back on him and later have my daughter asking me where her daddy is.