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not always PCG, some mother in laws and hubbies do motivate the wifey to keep practising, but the wife has it in her head that she doesnt want to..
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I love how you think I was being so sarcastic, but I’m not 
Now I feel totally like crap because I don’t want to be a Doc, I dont’ want to be a Lawyer, I dont want to be a PhD or anythin glike that but I still deserve the BEST 
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^ Then damn her for she wasted a perfectly good seat.
I met this girl once who got into professional school - she graduated undergrad, and on her graduation celebration day, I asked her if she was excited…you know - new life, - new career - new opportunities - its so exciting to start with a fresh sheet of paper…
And she says to me “I dont really care, I just want to get it done and over with so that I can marry mr. so-so. They’re waiting for me to finish school. After its done, I ain’t practicing anything, so I could fail for all I care”…
I was so 
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Sara516, its okay - you have better chances of getting a doc or lawyer than most of the pre-professional/professional school girls here in this thread griping about boys.
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sounds like someone i know :halo: was this in Pakistan or US? i know why girls do it in pakistan.. infact my very own relatives are in that boat.
screwed up really..
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Yeah but now I feel guilty 
But no docs :o
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Haha. It was a girl at my uni. I wanted to punch her in the face, but she is a sweet girl deep down.
I have a cousin who did med school, and she got married - BAM - not practicing. Her parents are furious about it though.
Her MIL paraded her around showing her off (making the elder bahu feel bad - and elder bahu and this girl are cousins actually) prior to the wedding…
“oh my hone wali bahu is a doctor, etc etc”
She totally was pressured by hubby and MIL to drop it after shaadi, so she can get pregnant.
I am so angry at her.
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yikes...
theres always a lot of pressure once u get married.
Im very proud of a cousin of mine who got married into a family where the rest of the bahu's were BA passes and she herself was a doc. And her being from a not a very rich family was subjected to quite a few taunts... khair, she still kept up with practising medicine, even if it was a really bad job at a hospital or clinic.. she's finally moved out and has made her own clinic at home.. and this is in Pak... really happy for her..
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Good for her - all I say is that if you're going to sit on a seat in professional school on your fat arse, then use the knowledge you learn and actually practice it.
If you wanna JUST make babies, then don't take up valuable seats in professional schools where seats are already limited, and universities are spending a fortune on each student's education.
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But should we just not ever get an education? What is the "minimum" if we don't choose to have careers?
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^ yeap i agree... especially in the west.
Back in Pakistan, its a completely different story.. most people are in it for the status even though in the beginning their hearts in the right place.. (sorry didnt mean to generalise.. just a few examples ive seen)
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Damn straight. This is even more frustrating in countries like Pakistan, where a decent education is at a very competitive. I’ve seen countless cases of NED, IBA, Aga Khan graduates sitting home doing jharoo poncha. Meanwhile some unlucky guy who needed to marry off his sisters or support his family is left in the dust.
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Do you guys think it's possible that maybe they do start out wanting careers but then decide that staying home is better or more important?? I mean, I felt guilty a minute ago for wanting to get a Bachelor's and be a stay at home wife/mom but seriously, not everyone fits into these categories... ucant' assume someone is a waste of time or space becoz they dont' actually earn money after acquiring an education..
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Right skhan - the sad thing is that if these schools got much more stringent on female applicants - really grilling them to figure out if they want to actually practice with the degree...then they'll be labelled as sexist.
There are few enough seats in Pakistan as it is - and the need for professionals is really intense. Its sad that such a high percentage of seats go to waste.
Personally, I think the schools should really grill the girls during an interview - put a pressure interview on them and try to find out where family fits in and whether they plan on doing jharoo poncha only after getting their degree.
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agree, there should be a proper interview done before one gets accepted into places like FJ.. where i know a lot of rich girls go only so that they can get a rishta easily once they’re done..
Sara, i dont think thats a bad thing. I mean if u wanna be a stay-at-home-mum, then thats ur personal choice. U dont necessarily have to be earning money once u finish a degree… even i mean with docs and lawyers, they can work without earning morning as well.. but theres a difference. These seats are highly competitive and people studying such professions should respect the eduction.. and they arent by just doing it for status purposes. These people are gifted, talented, and they have a God given gift to be able to help people… by sitting on their butts at home cooking and cleaning, they’re making a mockery of the eduction.. and thats what sucks..
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plus there are plenty of other careers out there - doctor and laywer aren't the only ones.
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^ yeap.. if all they wanna do is not work, then they may as well do something else. Interior decorating for example. Thats an awesome awesome course..
I also think that people should do that test before going to uni.. i forgot the name of it but it sorta tells u whats the best career for you.. they're pretty good me thinks..
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No they are not. I was told I should go into the hospitality business i.e. be a maid.
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no, theres this really professional one they do... its pretty good. I was told id be a good social worker or nurse... sigh should have followed my dream..
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