cant move on and super confused

[moonlight786]

Re: cant move on and super confused

@Paheli00

Moonlight: The reason behind him sharing personal details about his marriage with you is irrelevant. As a wife, I know if I found out that my husband was sharing personal details about relationship with ANY other woman (forget that fact that its his ex-gf!), I would an furious and embarrased at the same time. As I said already, can you imagine how you would feel if your husband someday did that? Hence, regardless of what HIS reasons are…it’s upto you to show respect for yourself and another woman’s marriage, and put an end to this.

As far as you being independent in all aspects…once again, as long as you and him continue to be a part of both of your families lives…this drama will continue (even after you two get married). Both sides of the family members will not forget the past. His current wife was chosen by his mother. I asssure you that she will hold you responsible for breaking up his 1st marriage if he divorces her and marries you. So no matter how independent you think you are…unless BOTH of you plan on cutting off all ties with both of the families…don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can have a happy marriage with him. The constant bickering among family members (which will cause issues between you and him) will always be there.

Cut off all contact with him. Move on with your life.

Paheli - There are so many things to take into consideration. His mother realises she did a mistake by getting him married. As his wife has being disrespectful in various aspects. She did spoke to me a last night. Saying i wish i cud undo and get the two of you together.. When she had turned against us after our quarrel. According to her, tht quarrel was nothing to wht both of he and his wife are going through also the wife was going out with somebody else and still continues to talk to him. She hasnt given this guy the respect and place she should have. Knowing all this, it complicates all the more for me. She was heart-broken, saying i lost my son in my arrogance had i thought once and not got him married i wud have had a loving bahu and my son with me.

With all said, I lreally adored his family to bits man.. we gelled really well. Mayb they too feel the gaps and cracks now. I m glad they do cuz i went through alot so its a fair deal.

She wants to meet me alone with his father i dont know for what. But i havent said yes to anything as off now.

I also know if 'd marry someone else eventually i wll give in if he loves me endlessly but it maybe a compromise initially but i wouldnt b able to give what i gave to his family. His sister, brother, mom’s place and memories are there to stay for good. I dont want to give a new beginning to my life with a compromise but i m trying hard to muster myself and move on.

Its hard for now and whoever turned their back are coming down and apologising.