Re: Can't leave single mom. What to do?
He sounds like he's under his parents thumb,
Try to change him before you say yes,
Don't believe him when he says that your mom can live with him and so can his parents, he threw them into the equation, seemed like he was mocking you, otherwise he should've just talked about your mom's situation which is pretty unique and DESERVES to be considered. Do you honestly believe that your in-laws will live with you while you are living with your mom???
And also, what if something happens to you mom (God forbid) during that one year that you've been living with your in-laws and away from her, what if she needs someone to be constantly with her and cannot manage alone? What will you do then if you haven't enough money to move out of the in-laws house?
Don't rush into this marriage, it's highly likely that you'll be unhappy with him, try to push for your demand to let your mom move closer or whatever, but i think your in-laws will DEFINITELY have a problem with your going to see your mom everyday as long as you live with them.
Just clam down and wait. Don't expect him to change right now, because that's the way he's been brought up, and i believe this is a recent demand of yours which he thinks is unimportant because you brought it up so late in the relationship.
I also feel you'll have this difficulty with ALL desi families. Most of them would never accept this idea of THEIR son living with his in-laws.
In Islam, it's the children's responsibility to care for their parents, not their spouses.