Re: cant forget HIM
you know I just think that affairs are wrong always!
Re: cant forget HIM
Sometimes things happen for the better. Just find comfort in prayer, you obv love your family very much. Regret is just a part of human nature, happens to all of us. sigh
guys it may sound strange but i want to make a confession here .I had a relationship with a guy 8 yrs ago.Destiny didnot let us b together so now im married to someone else and am a mother of 2 kids i still miss him desperately, still nothing in the world has been able to fill up that vacum.Well, people do say that motherhood completes a woman ,im happy with my kids and my husband is a nice man too but still his memories r always lingring in my mind.Now im not saying that i want to abandon my family and run away with him,its just that he is always there in me sometimes i try to visualise him in my husband,sometimes the words float around "agar woh hota to aisa hota agar woh hota to waisa hota".He s still not married --silmply couldnt get over me either.I simply dont know how to react when common friends discuss him infront of me.What do u suggest people what would u hav done if u were in my shoes,if your advise is to accept gods will yes i have done that but how do i get him out of my soul.
another reason why never marry a woman with past relationship(s)
poor guy, sucks to be him!
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here listen to this and make love to the good man you’re married to
I don't beleive in "destiny did not let us be together." We make our own destiny. You have the power to make decisions and lead your life into a certain path.
If both of you loved each other as much as you did and still do then you should have done whatever it took to stay together, no matter how hard or difficult the situation was.
If it didn't work out and you did not end up getting married, then it just wasn't meant to be.
Focus on your husband and children. Ask your friends to stop bringing him up so you can get over him.
good thoughts, i totally agree
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i still think you should meet HIM again not to have an affair but to see him and see that he's not the perfect little person you've made up in your head, when you see his flaws you'll be thankful you have such a wonderful husband believe me, try it
guys it may sound strange but i want to make a confession here .I had a relationship with a guy 8 yrs ago.Destiny didnot let us b together so now im married to someone else and am a mother of 2 kids i still miss him desperately, still nothing in the world has been able to fill up that vacum.Well, people do say that motherhood completes a woman ,im happy with my kids and my husband is a nice man too but still his memories r always lingring in my mind.Now im not saying that i want to abandon my family and run away with him,its just that he is always there in me sometimes i try to visualise him in my husband,sometimes the words float around "agar woh hota to aisa hota agar woh hota to waisa hota".He s still not married --silmply couldnt get over me either.I simply dont know how to react when common friends discuss him infront of me.What do u suggest people what would u hav done if u were in my shoes,if your advise is to accept gods will yes i have done that but how do i get him out of my soul.
u r ruining ur hubby's life .. :) .. pooor him . . set him free and live imagining ur ex ..
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move on
here listen to this and make love to the good man you're married to
Exactly, and imagine this bloke now instead of that other one. Variety is the spice of life, they say.
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WOW
u could not forget him after having i mean … 2 kids
do u people call this infidelity i mean im trying my best to b a good wife a good mother but he is always there like a shadow and this makes me feel guilty i think all three of us have suffered in this disaster. well somebody just said that hes available and single and this thought keeps me hinged onto him---mayb this could b true i hope he gets married either things will get easier this way or its going to b destruction of one more life
You have to think about it from another perspective...its ALL about perspective.
Allah swt decides fates and if he has decided yours with your husband...its for a reason. If your husband is a good man, treats you well and has given you happiness...then he is your soul mate and not appreciating him is going to lead to a bigger disaster.
Your ex might have been your first love and we never forget those but I can guarantee you...life would have been a lot rockier with him had you married him. Dont think you're missing out and stop wondering. He isnt your future and never will be because he couldnt make you happy.
There is a reason he isnt your husband...
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You didn't mention the reason that why didn't you both get married. I believe 'love' and 'regret' both are entirely different feelings. If the reason of the break up was YOU then you might have regrets that are not letting you live happily with your family.
According to you,you have a nice husband and 2 kids MashAllah then there shouldn't be any reason to feel any space for someone else in your life.
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its all in mind.....come back into reality and live ur life....i dont understand that why girls get so obsessed about someone they dint even get married to.....its in ur own control and will to forget him and love ur husband....u have kids with him.....i dont want to sound harsh but i think u need counselling....stop living in the filmy world lady.....u r married and u MUST NOT think about some other guy when u have a nice and loving husband.....what else u need....look at those girls who suffer so much in the hands of their inlaws and husbands....and learn to thank Allah taa'aalah!!!!!