once in a while the thought enters.... okay it happens..but don't dwell oin it. in fact dont think about it that much that you have to talk about it and let it out... it should be a blip in ur mind
i'm nto sure where i read it but its advised to watch your thoughts as they become words, watch your words as they become actions, and watch your actions as they become your character, and watch ur character as it becomes ur destiny. and thats true... it all starts with thoughts...
isn't your first love married already, he must be......what would happen if you met with him again, i dont think it would end in an affair, you'll atleast be able to move on after that and he'll stop being on your mind
i say be thankful to allah that you have a nice,goodhearted husband, they don't come so easily, not an abundance of good marriages out there
well, not all glitter is gold, there is a reason you end up marrying your husband.. since you got a nice husband so be thankful of that, because some people end up with nuffing.. like nor here or there.
Tiger I have an identical problem. Which is why i cant marry.
Maybe they are right when they say you cant forget your first love.
I love and miss her so much
I thought you couldn't marry because you haven't been able to find a woman willing to marry you?
As for the question, like the drunken-master said, have an extra marital affair. Keep your husband happy at home, and get some on the side. Best of both worlds, win-win.
I have had a similar situation. I was in love with a girl. We thought it wouldn't work out, so we parted. But she came back. She came back into my life, not once but twice. I fought to get her. I was ready to face anything. But suddenly something happened and it all fell apart. She got married. Months later I got her email. She was in the same situation as you are. She wanted me to come and get her. Chance came third time, but this time around I couldn't do anything. I refused. Till day she lives married but with other memories. I cannot do anything about it. And I am not sure if I want to either. But this is how life is.
Grass is always greener on the other side.
Perhaps this old love of yours is only fantastic in your imagination .... he may have become mundane and same as your husband had you married him.
we always crave/yearn for what we don't have.
I don't beleive in "destiny did not let us be together." We make our own destiny. You have the power to make decisions and lead your life into a certain path.
If both of you loved each other as much as you did and still do then you should have done whatever it took to stay together, no matter how hard or difficult the situation was.
If it didn't work out and you did not end up getting married, then it just wasn't meant to be.
Focus on your husband and children. Ask your friends to stop bringing him up so you can get over him.
