I learned about Mehnaz’s loss in ALL Views section this afternoon. Then, tonight, while browsing through Blogs section, I saw her first blog written about her father and what he and his family went through in the past few weeks. It was so heart-wrenching that my eyes were welling up by the time I finished reading it.
Then last weekend, I learned through my mom that one of our very near and dear neighbor, an extremely nice and fine lady, is diagnosed with uterine cancer. She had her uterus extracted about a month ago and now undergoing chemotherapy. Doctor says that the evil disease is at the last stage but they are trying their best to prevent it from spreading out.
About a week and a half ago, I learned something very tragic. One of my mom’s second cousin was in love with this lady for the last 18 years. The reason for being in love for that long and still not getting married was that the girl’s mother didn’t want her to get married to him. She never provided any reasons and always said that the girl could marry absolutely ANY guy but him. He is a doctor by profession, very good-looking, has a reputable and respectable family background but it seems this wasn’t enough for the girl’s mother. After giving up on the hope that girl’s mother would agree to their rishta, they went ahead and had a nikah and he took her to his home. From valima day, the newly wed girl started feeling unwell. They saw doc and test came positive for liver cancer. Within a month, she passed away.
About a month and a half back, my chachi’s father was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. He has undergone one surgery. Another surgery to remove a part of his esophagus and stomach is scheduled for early next week.
Last year, my mami’s oldest sister, who was around 40 at that time, was diagnosed with uterine cancer when it was at the last stage. Poor thing went through 3 rounds of chemotherapy but couldn’t survive. In the last couple of days, she even failed to recognize her kids.
About two years ago, a friend of mine lost her mother AND father to cancer and both passed away within 6 months of each other. Her mother was being treated for Hepatitis C for a couple of years already but her father tested positive for cancer too when he went to see doctor for some other ailment and was gone within a month.
Why did I bother to list them all down here? Answer is that it actually has started to scare me how readily cancer is spreading out. No, I am not scared for my own self or for my family. Everyone who has been born must go one dayand I don’t deny this fact. But what I’ve observed is that cancer has become a very common ailment in the past 8-10 years. Before that, we did get to hear that so and so died of cancer and that was it. But now, it seems like everyother person is affected by this disease either directly or indirectly. It’s scary, truly scary.
May ALLAH TALLAH keeps us all safe and sound and bless us with health. ameen.
our gynaecology professor told us in a lecture while teaching about cancers that out of 300 students in the lecture hall,60 will definitely have a cancer! the rate is sadly so high now..we studied in books that it usually runs in families but after working in a cancer hospital,i have observed that 40% of patients didnt have any history of cancer in even the extended family.
ALLAH PAAK hum subko mehfooz rakhayn.Aamin
so sad.
my nephew was sick for 2 years. he didnt even had any major problem and his problems are cureable but we went through hell for 2 years. every 2nd day we would be sitting in emergency with him.
I feel so much for MehnazQ who went through alot. she is very brave.
cancer no matter is bad than any other disease out there , the worst part of it that it doesn't make u that sick in the begining compared to other diseases or infections.
may allah bless everyone with health
What is even more disturbing is the fact that the disease springs up from almost nowhere and knock one down almost in a jiffy. One day, you are all fine and dandy and within a month or so, you are gone. Truly horrifying!
One of my friends BIL , is a cancer survivor , he was lucky that his cancer got caught in very early stage. After his radiation and chemo he has been clear of cancer for last 17 years.
One Pakistani co worker of mine's wife got diagnosed with breast cancer at very late stage, she was gone within a year. It was very shocking for me to see her die at such a young age the father is raising two very young boys on his own now.
Now my own BIL's , MIL has been diagnosed with advanced stage cancer which seems to be terminal , she is in chemo and her radiation therapy will start soon. May Allah give her full recovery. Ameen.
I think it is one of the most horrifying reality when you get to learn that you have cancer.. the whole life runs by your eyes and you start worrying about your family and friends.. how does one break such a news to his family/friends..
I was diagnosed incorrectly by some idiot doctor and let me tell you that few days when I was put under the believe that I have cancer were the most horrifying of my life.. I thank Allah for helping me go through that time but really I spent nearly 2 days without sleep just to find a way to tell my parents -- it was the hardest thing to do..
I really pray to Allah that no one gets sick with any sort of disease. (Ameen)
a very close friend of mine .. her father has been fighting cancer for 2 yrs now.. one by one they took out one organ or another and he went thru chemo and radio.. now its spread to his backbone and nervous system and well, just counting the days for him to be let out of his misery. i met him when i moved to denmark and recently saw a pic of him.. the change is tragic.
her bemaari se, choti ya bari, allah bachaye, ameen.
I think it is one of the most horrifying reality when you get to learn that you have cancer.. the whole life runs by your eyes and you start worrying about your family and friends.. how does one break such a news to his family/friends..
I was diagnosed incorrectly by some idiot doctor and let me tell you that few days when I was put under the believe that I have cancer were the most horrifying of my life.. I thank Allah for helping me go through that time but really I spent nearly 2 days without sleep just to find a way to tell my parents -- it was the hardest thing to do..
I really pray to Allah that no one gets sick with any sort of disease. (Ameen)
Shukar Alhumdulillah everything turned out OK for you. Once I wanted to buy life insurance and the insurance company did a medical screening , then they sent me a denial letter but those idiots did not mention any reason , when I called they did not want to tell me what was wrong with me , they wanted me to send a letter to get a report. I was so worried for a couple of weeks but then when the report came , I found out that I had diabetes. You had to live with that misdiagnosis for two years, that is scary thought for me knowing what I had to go through for those couple of weeks.
My mumani had a cancer and she died in a year :( and she left 4 children and the youngest one was 2 years old.
The docs did bone marrow biopsy on me one it was really painful and those days were stressfull.And result was negative.
My best friend passed away in March from Colon Cancer. She died 6 months after her diagnosis and every single day after her diagnosis was horrifying. I still wonder up until this day if she knew about it from before..
I myself was recently diagnosed with having a huge cyst in my bile duct. I am going through a surgery to get it removed but inititally my doctor felt that there is a possibility of having a tumour in there so I went through all these tests and alhumdulillah, one hasnt developed yet but I am at risk. I cannot thank Allah swt enough for this being diagnosed at a time it can be treated (although the surgery is quite complicated).
Just thinking about it is so scary. May Allah protect us all. How does one get diagnosed for cancer, I mean what are their symptoms that they go to doctor for 1 thing & then get diagnosed with severe cancer? That really scares me.
It's amazing how many of us know someone who has/had cancer. :(
My grandmother died from cancer in her throat. She was diagnosed in the last stage. One of my uncles was with her in last months and he went through so much emotional pain, he went into depression actually because he said that if we saw my grandmother in her last days we wouldn't be able to recognize her at all and her whole body got so huge because of swelling, her condition was just tragic, she couldn't even recognize her children in the last days. It was so sad. I hope no one has to see his/her loved one go through so much pain. May Allah give us all good health and ease our pains when it's our time to leave. Amen! :(