Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
^^Well it just surprises me that you guys had all these issues with your bhabi that you're telling us here but during those 1.5 years, you or your mom never said anything to her? .. except that one time to hoover..? You could have asked her to pitch in one in a while to say bhabi can you cut this onion for me or can you do something small as this for me.. seems like she did enter the kitchen for the rice purpose so why didn't you take advantage of her being there? I think that if her actions were offending you guys then maybe you should have sat down to talk to her or have your brother speak to her. She was at fault for not realizing it or maybe realizing it but not doing anything about it but still, if you don't let your problem out in the open, how would you ever get the solution for it.
Well lets say I'm the kind of person who likes to do my own stuff and like I mentioned before I was used to do everything and since she is elder than me, I never really made an issue out of it. Of course like any other human being I like to be helped out, but I would never creat a fuss about it. I actually really thought tht eventually after 2-3 months when she would be used to the lifestyle here, she would help out on herself. Unfortunalty I was wrong.
Of course my mum tried a few times to tell her to learn stuffs saying "one day you will need it. All girls need it" which she just nodded to and later on ignored. Now my brother works in his own shop, which means he has long days. Would it have been seen as nice if me and my mum kept complaining to him that "oh your wife doesnt do this and that" and thereby creating problems between him and his wife? I dont think so. We tried to solve it peacefully, but when someone simply doesnt wanna do anything, I dont think you can make them do it. It only creates bigger problems.
On the other hand today I think its her lost that she didnt help us out then. Cuz now she is too embarassed to ask for any help herself. (well apart from the babysitting or anything else which my mum offers her)And God knows there are many things to do when u have childrens aged 2 and 1 and pregnant with no. 3 :p