Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
Now to a personal story which may enlight you a bit. I have a SIL. She is married to my elder brother which means she is 6 years older than me. She got married to my bro 5 yrs ago and moved to Europe with us. Prior to the Rukhsati we had nikkah and my parents told her parents clearly tht in Europe people do their own stuff. No maids and servants here peeps. Now when my bhabhi came here, she lived with us for 1,5 yr.
Did she ever clean the house? NO. She spend the day sleeping. I was in my senior year in graduation and I was the one doing the cleaning. (My mum has a blood preassure problem so she cant do much before she is exaushted.)
Did she ever make dinner? NO! I was making the dinner, salan, roti whatever. She only cooked rice, because she loved them and I didnt know how to cook them. (I was 18 yrs) Did I ever ask her to do the cooking? No I never did and nor did i ever complain to my parents. I was cooking before she came in our family, and I continued to do so. It made no difference to me. But yes today when I look back at this time I ask myself how she could be so selfish and not help me out one bit, when she was at home all day along saying she was bored and bla bla and watching the same movies over and over!
Did she ever hoover the house or even her room. Did she wash her clothes and her husbands? NO she did none.
She never did anything. Nor did my mother ever ask her to do anything. My mum thought she would have the manners to help out eventually with time. We were wrong and time went on. And when one gets used to a certain habit, its very difficult to change the habit. After an yr living with us my mum asked her to hoover the livingroom and my bhabhi said "no".
When you were bringing you bhabhi did you think that you were bringing a maid from Pakistan?
Girls don't get married for washing dishes and vaccuming the house. They have dream and ambitions.