Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
to answer your question....NO your in-laws can never replace, be, or act like your parents. You can however show them the love and respect they deserve for raising a decent son (and i assume he is decent because you married him and love him). Most of all you should treat them kindly because of the love that you have for your husband.
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You need to keep in mind that you are no longer that pampered little princess you once were. You are a married woman now and as a wife you have some responsibilties ....one of those responsibilities is to cook. Now I'm not saying this is solely your responsibility (unless it is agreed upon by you and your husband) but it is something that you should learn to do because nobody wants to eat out every single day. So step up to the plate and get started.
As far as your in-laws are concerned you should try and give them the benefit of the doubt because you would want them to do the same for you when you say something they may not like......right? Perhaps they didnt mean anything by it. Maybe they just simply meant that they no longer have to take care of their son because you are here now. That may actually be a good thing u know. :)