Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?

[Shikra]

Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?

@Sabriya786

Them expecting you to cook is not too much to ask for. I think you’re making an issue out of nothing. Just because you never cooked before doesnt mean you shouldnt have to cook ever. Marriage comes with responsibilities. And if you’re living with your in-laws, then the least you can do is cook for the entire family. If you look at it from their perspective, why should they have to cook for your husband then if you’re there?

@Mrs.Shikra

To answer your question…i think in-laws cannot be like your real parents but you can surely respect and love them as your own parents but just dont expect them to pamper you as you were…Parents pamper their daughters cuz they know that one day they will leave them also cuz they know you and your habits…so its easy for them to ignore.

Try to help your saas as much as you can…if you cant cook, help her cutting the vegetables or onions or something…make her feel like you are there for her…When she is cooking something just stand next to her move the doi or something:D…One more thing…IF you were living all by yourself with your hubby…you would have to eventually cook you know…cant eat out everyday u know…just learn to cook for your own peace of mind..GOOD LUCK and its not that hard

Well said by both of you.

Like my wife said, use this to your advantage. This is the best time for you to make mistakes and learn how to cook so that when you eventually do move into your own place, you are ready to take the bull by the horns.

I hate to be rude, but you are living in their house, you want them to work for YOU and pamper you? You are kidding yourself. Wake up and smell the coffee. You are living in someone else’s house, you have to help them, they are not your real parents that can overlook your shortcomings. I am sure your MIL will help you if you ask her to teach you, in fact, she will probably be glad to help and feel “needed”, and that’s a good thing.

On a side note, mothers who pamper their daughters are not doing justice to them. They should be preparing them for the real world. If they don’t teach them anything, they’ll have no clue what to do when they do get married (whether they live with in-laws or alone).