Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
reading replies.. i feel like going and doing do nafil shukranay that my mom in law is an angel… do in laws treat their daughter in laws like their own daughters? mine do.. infact i think my mom in law is more sensitive to my feelings than my own mom was 
i wasnt allowed to do anything at all after i got married… according to my mil, she didnt want to shove the responsibilties in my direction immediately and take a break from eveyrthing herself.. my sis in law and mil would cook and clean and just let me take things in… i was eased into everything.. where things are kept, how things are done.. what are the likes and dislikes but its ok if u want to do things a certain way.. its ure home…
but she says she didnt feel at all worried that i wouldnt want to take responsibility cuz i assisted in everything from the get go.. show her that im here 100% and willing to help in any way… infact at times i would feel pissed cuz she cooked first thing in the morning (9 friggin am!)… i would get up at 10 and the food would be ready… so i had to teach her to chill out bout that.. she would just say..oh its ok.. tum karo ya mein, ek hi baath hai ..
now that i have started school, my mornings and afternoon are bz whilst her afternoons and evenings are bz (shes a teacher at the mosque)… so she cooks dinner and kneads atta (and also does my lunch 
) .. i come home.. and arrange dinner in time for when husband and aunty come home. responsibilties arent written in stone but i think we have finally found a system that works for us… she does dinner on my school days, and i do it on my off days and weekends we do it together… cleaning im incharge of cuz i dont want her lugging the vacuum around .. laundry she does mostly…
hehe.. there isnt much to do to be honest.. we fight over chores.. sad .. but we are both clean freaks who are extra fast at doing things and so run out of chores by noon. sad. i know. but atleast we both get each other cuz we are exactly the same
whilst its not nice to hand over the house to a bahu the very next day after marriage… its not end of the world… with marriage comes responsibility and maturity.. and that is how these things should be handled.
p.s) i feel like slapping girls who say they arent willing to learn how to cook… u NEED food to stay alive and keep ure family healthy.. .. i dont kow that many places u can eat out and stay healthy, unless all u have are salads… and every friggin day?! some girls have this idea that living with in laws its such a chore cooking but will do it willingly if they were living alone with the husband.. suddenly a boring chore becomes exciting
ayyin kahin se shezadi sahiba. 