Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
This is what it is all about. Ask your husband to buy a separate home. As I see it your FIL is still working and can afford to pay all the bills and your hubby and you are enjoying the benefits of his hard work. Once your hubby buys a home you can live happily ever after. You do not know how to cook and you two can go out and eat every night and bring some back home so that he and you can use it for breakfast and lunch.
As I see it your FIL and MIL are treating you very nicely and decently , they are being like your parents. They have provided a roof to you and your hubby , your MIL cooks , your FIL pays all the bills. He nags about you sleeping late that goes to your benefit. Do you not wake up for your fajr prayer ? If not you should and if others do not wake up you can take this duty to wake other up for Fajr and prepare the breafast for everybody , I am sure they would love you for doing that. And after all this you go back to makeup you lost sleep no one will object.
You and your hubby are in comfort zone that is why you are complaining about it. Once the reality hits you and him you will know that you are living in a paradise and you should appreciate and pitch in more. Cooking is not as they say it rocket science , while your MIL is cooking you can learn and she would love to be you mentor in this respect. Grow up girl , you are a married women , you are living with a real family not in a dorm room with some room mates.
The love is won by giving love . Hate begets hate. Change your attitude and you will notice the difference in the behavior of your MIL , FIL , SIL, BIL and the whole FIL( family in law). No ? 