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I would say just the taboo sensation of having had sex before Rukhsati will keep them laughing and smiling for a long time to come.
No restrictions from Islam here. If you really want to know what Islam recommends in such situations, here is the fact. If husband wants to make love to his wife and wife is not feeling under-the-weather or is not in her menstrual cycle, she should not refuse.
I would say go for it!!!
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As you can see from the previous comments there are two sides to this:
1) Religious aspect
2) Cultural aspect
From a religious point of view they are married, there is a Nikkah Nama (wedding contract) and that makes them husband-wife. So Rukhsati is not an issue. In fact, the concept of having Nikkah and Rukhsati on two different days does not even exist in Islam.
However the cultural aspect would create problems here, if they can't wait for just one month. As mentioned before by Shak Kills, they might have difficulties explaining to their parents and relatives a pregnancy that starts before the Rukshati.
So my advise would be: Wait!
Apart from that: I think the girl shouldn't go around talking about it with all her friends. That should have remained a private issue between husband and wife.
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what kinda Islam do u practice doc? Can u pls quote your source.
On the subject at hand, I totally agree with Shak. It will not kill the guy to be patient or for the girl for that manner.
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being patient is so very good but fartguru, you please do not come into this flower bed discussion.
holds the breath running out of the thread
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Well on one hand... she's married and can legally do whatever she wants with him. Yes it's culturally unacceptable but things in our culture don't really make sense. THey should go out and enjoy each other. On the other hand, like some ppl said, the wedding night stuff is romantic. They could perhaps..i dunno... go mid-way before rukhsati?
Butseriously, if the guy is saying "be prepared" then that should send a warning signal. He only seems desparate for that one thing and isn't showing any regard to her feelings or apprehensions. True he is her husband and they can lawfully do it but if she's not comfortable with the idea, he shouldn't push her to do it, that's just wrong.
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maybe he was just teasing her? maybe his "be ready" was just to tung her .. and maybe he is not going to have sex with her!! we are assuming alot here.
My simple advice. If at any stage of life, wife feels that she is not in mood of having sex .. she should tell her husband. After all, both have to agree for it to be a great moment for both of them..
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This was not my original source because I read it from an Islamic book long time back. However, I have quickly searched for the information and here is what I have found.
A more authentic link telling the original source:
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Sex soon after marriage/nikah is not essential. But the husband and wife should not remain separated for no good reason.
Again this was not my original source.
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Some back ground would help...is this arranged or love? how long have they known each other?
islamically they can have sex but obvioulsy based on background...and what country they are in now i would adjust my advice accordiingly.
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NOWAY ....... but according to islamic point of view they can do sex before rukhsati , coz now they r husband and wife....but according to muslims view they don't do this......well i am wondering ....he can't wait for one month .....whyyyyyy........ his hormones r i think out of control.....ur friend should tell him plz use his patience or stop going out with him before rukhsati....
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So now Islamic point of view and muslim point of view are two different things? That explains a lot :D
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see u r muslim ur views r diff…and if we read islamic books or anything its view r diff…thats the diff b/w islam and a muslim…and haan agar muslims har kam islamic point of view say karay to i think than muslims will be the most special makhlooq on earth…
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true true. What muslims mostly practise is culturally influenced hence the complications. For this particular scenario it's not about all muslims but south asian muslims. As if their lives aren't twisted enough.
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FF I think she meant Muslim as in the people.... Islam has a clear stance on it but people somehow still get confused...
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well tell me one thing why r u waisting ur time here in this topic…i don’t think she asked u for ur suggestions… ub tuk un ko jo karna ho ga woh kar bhi chukay hon gay
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i agree with funguy.. he seems shady. if he has waited all this time, what's another month? they are husband and wife and can do whatever they want but u can't force someone to have sex.. both parties have to be 'ready' and 'willing'.
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Oh 
My bad. I didn;t realise she only asked for your suggestions!
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WHATEVER…:bash:
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:rocketup: 
:stupid: :bash:
Ab bolo!
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You are a not a guy, are ya??? You just gave yourself away didn’t ya:D